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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Just wondering if anyone is in my situation, do any of you always choose to fancy the wrong guys? For example, every now and again my exboyfriend starts talking to me again, flirting etc i start to think it could work again when it's not a good idea as he's the kind of guy that doesn't really like relationships whereas i'm interesed in a serious relationship. Or.. starting to really like this guy when he's taken, lots of people thought we were an item but he set them straight saying he had a girlfriend and then when he'd just been dumped by his girlfriend (not because of me by the way) he started flirting with me, (joking about) saying he loves me and hugging me etc. I know that both of these people are a 'no go area' and i should'nt even be flirting or anything.. but they come to me, Am i seen as a rebound girl or some fun? I have no idea but it's always the bad guys.. never the sweet guys that want a long relationship.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 The so called sweet guys tend to be less aggresive and also to have other intrests then just chasing women.
This means they are more likely to check first that a woman might be receptive to an approach.
The first check would be to see if she is available. Not much point on hitting on a girl that is already taken. A: She wouldn't respond. B: She does respond which makes her a cheater.
You are flirting with these guys you call bad. Or rather they are flirting with you BUT you are not making it very clear you are not intrested.
So, how do other guys see you right now? Hang out with the "bad" boys and you will be well protected from the "sweet" guys.
But is this really what you want? You sure seem to like these so called bad boys or you wouldn't hang out with them?
It is one thing to think you want a long term relationship but something else to accept that this means you can't flirt with bad boys. What is it that you really want at this stage in your life? It might not be what you think it is.
We choose our social circle. If you social circle is filled with "bad" guys, then that is your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Well, guys like that are just looking for their next fling and it sounds to me like you have very good instincts and are smart enough to stay away from them.
It isn't anything about you other than you are a pretty young girl and you are available.....keep holding out for the sweet guy you can trust...he is out there.
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