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writes:I hate having to ask this question, but im just so tired of the damn pain I've been having for the past moth, and I won't being see a doctor till wednesday. I have such a hard time going to the bathroom (#2). It hurts me, and I fear when I have to go. I've never had this problem before, its always been very normal, I have a healthy eating habit, and would go regularly twice a day. Now im finding myself going every 2-3 days, and being on the damn toilet for an hour of pain. Its not even that I have to do so much, I just take it slow. And once im done I take a look at my waste and its not even big to be such a big deal about, its rather normal as its always been. I have not changed my eating habits. But I came across my first time with anal sex about a month ago as well. I was well prepared about it, and very relaxed. I did all the research about it. I was actually more concerned about the pain and if I would even enjoy it. My boyfriend was very carefull about the situation and gave me my time. When I found my self ready, we had all the right things at hand, (condom, 2 bottles of lube lol, and anal toys just incase) and patience. We didn't start right away, as to first vaginal and oral sex just to get in the mood. And once ready with enough lube, slipped right in with causing no pain whatsoever, we took it slow to the point speed was not a problem at all. I was actually impressed and it was very enjoyable to him and I. I was kinda shocked that my friends had told me they had a hard time, or they bleed, or just didn't like it. I found myself maybe enjoying it more than him =). So we went through it very well. No pain, no blood, just pleasure and ease. The day after I had no problems going to the bathroom, actually it was just a week after that I started having complications. The first day wasn't so painful, as to everybody has come across this pain once in their life. Then it started to become a daily pain. I was scared. This monday I went in to the clinic for my pap, and I told her my concerns, she had a look and said it look normal as to no infection, redness nor swelling, she said I showed no sign of hemorrhoids. She couldn't give me an answer so she made me an appointment with someone who can. My boyfriend had a check up as to an std or anything. Today we saw the results and he is perfectly clean as well as me. So what could be the problem? Im hoping u guys have advice or tips to not make it less painful with going to the bathroom. Fyi haven't had anal sex since then. and sorry if this bothers anyone, im just concerned and can't wait till wednesday. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): Sounds like you did everything right! Congratulations, and I only wish we'd had the internet when I was a freshman in college... WOW, no odd fumbling trying to figure all this out on our own!Glad to hear you're better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all! Just updating. My appointment went very well. I found there was nothing wrong, but I did have a stomach infection that was causing constipation. All though I did try the stool softeners and worked out pretty well, and today I found myself finally enjoying the toilet again! =) thank u all,
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Well we all have different opinion when it comes to dealing with other people. I don't really mind even if people would tell me that I'm gay.
I read somewhere that some people like to discriminate others so that it can make them feel big. I just let them say what they want to say.
I don't have time to argue with people like that. Life is too short to argue over things that don't matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the tips, I'll be doing some research, hope its nothing serious. And student of life, u don't sound gay, ur just honest which most guys arent...thanks!!! I'll let u guys know how it goes on wednesday.!
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (15 August 2008):
I had the same problem because I wasn't eating right (which gave me liquid #2 (nice way to put it i guess)).
Which, from what I saw from the little reasearch I did on "anal fissure", could be the same problem than you have.
For me, it did eventualy heal over time but it may not be the same thing for you since it's probably not the same cause.
I like to explore my body and like playing with my rectum (there's no nice way to put it, and no matter how I say it ... it sounds gay so what ever) , I never had any problem as of yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): Hi
You likely got an anal fissure. (See google). They are very painful.
Best to get stool softeners at your pharmacy until you see the doc. Fibrogel with lots of water. That will help with going to the loo at least.
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