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An update on my life and how much things have changed after the death of a close relative

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Article - (5 May 2014) 2 Comments - (Newest, 24 September 2014)
A female United States age 30-35, Soul Writer writes:

After months and months of disappearing from DearCupid, I decided to post an update on my life as it stands right now.

As mentioned before, my uncle was struggling with the final stages of lung cancer. We lost him last year on the 23rd of July. I still harbor deep-rooted feelings of anger, regret, and grief. I knew that his death would hit hard, but I did't expect it to alter the very person that I am. I didn't think that I would allow it to change me. He truly was the only father figure I have ever known...and the only person I ever gave myself to. He showed me endless compassion and acceptance. His love had no conditions. To this day it is difficult being in a relationship with anyone, whether it be romantic or friendly. God is far from me.

I am currently in college and am finishing up my second semester. This summer I begin transitioning into the nursing program: RN. I've worked...hard...for this. But, now I wonder if I have what it takes at all. I'm not sure I have what it takes to be passionate about anything anymore.

So, that is where I stand as of now. Thank you for taking the time to read these words if you did so. God bless all you gentle-hearted people. I envy you.

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A female reader, Soul Writer United States +, writes (24 September 2014):

Soul Writer is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Soul Writer agony auntThank you for your reply and insight.

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (2 June 2014):

Abella agony auntI found your article interesting. You have lost a significant person in your life. Grief can last a long time time, or a very long time, or sometimes a short time, depending on the significance to you, of the person who has passed away.

I can recommend the books on grief by Kubler Ross. She was an expert on the subject.

Perhaps the death of your Uncle has left you wondering about many things. Grief has a way of affecting people for longer than people think it should go on.

For some, grief takes a long time to work through the stages of grief.

Sometimes people grow as a result of grief, though before that happens people can find themselves lost, cut adrift or confused about their direction in life.

Just based on your account it sounds to me that you have the intelligence and insight to be a really good nurse.

Just take short steps. Do nice things for you on a regular basis. Be kind to yourself.

Being at the crossroads of life and embarking on a new direction in life is a

big step. At times like this we often question ourseLves. All big changes are a challenge.

With every change in life we grow a little wiser and a little stronger.

I wish you well in your studies.

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