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writes: Okay so I am currently seeing two different girls. One girl happens to be my ex which i dated for 1.5 years and the other girl is a girl that i work with. I have a lot of feelings for both of them, but my ex is the one that I am always having trouble getting over because we both still love each other and see each other on an occasional basis. But the thing is, this new girl that i am thinking about a relationship with puts a lot more time and effort into our relationship. we've done more fun things in 6 weeks then my ex and i did in a year. WE went to six flags and took a vaca to california, we randomly got a hotel in payson one night and went hiking, she did a lot of shit for my birthday and is always willing to carry her financial weight. I see my ex about once a week and we have great sex and more QUALITY conversations and alone time which is why i still have a lot feelings for her. she also says she still loves me but doesnt trust me enough to let her walls down and jump right into a relationship. I'm torn between the two of them and i dont want to hurt anybody but i know i need to pick one soon before they both leave. the question is, do i follow my heart and stay with my ex and try to make things work, or see whats up with this new girl who REALLY cares about me and our relationship?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I am all for when in doubt...do nothing. Or pick a third option.
Your ex- must be an ex for a reason, anyway she does not seem to want to be back in a relationship with you so most likely you are wasting your time even if getting good sex. Which can backfire if you really want to get over her , because how you are ever gonna get over someone if you see her once a week and keep having sex with her ?
The second girl, sounds more like a fun companion for you, but not romantically interesting, I am sure you like been loved and pampered by her, you dig the attention, but if you cannot reciprocate it's not fair and a bit cruel to her.
so neiher one is just right...and the world is full of women.
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