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writes:A friend of mine in his 20s is dating a girl who is 15. As far as they tell me, there has been no sexual contact at all. Not even kissing, they are just madly in love. However, her parents are aware of the situation and have informed the police. They live in the UK.Her parents do not know this guys name and the police have been trying to find him, so far with no luck. She has denied being with him and has given the police no information. Her parents have heard nothing in 6 months, so maybe the police have dropped tha case because of lack of evidence?He thinks the police will find him eventually, if they are still looking. His girlfriend would be willing to go to court and swear that nothing has happened between them.She will soon be 16. My question is:If the mother initiated police involvement when the girl was 15, what would the situation be when she turns 16? Could she get the case dropped or would other issues come into play? I said to him that if they got together properly when she has turned 16, her parents could still have a say and the police could still be involved. What is the situation surrounding this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006):
I don't believe the police would be out looking for this guy, either.
Perhaps I could if it were in a few of the American states, but not in the UK. The police have got far better things to do with their time than to take this kind of situation seriously. The CPS needs good concrete evidence to formally charge someone and take it to court - the worst this guy faces is a caution - a telling off.
I don't know if you are the guy in question, or the 15yr old girl in question, but to answer your question, based on what you have said: Once she is 16, there would no longer be a "case" - why would there?
I think you are worrying over nothing, to be honest. If you are the girls parents, you need to accept your daughter has grown up, if you are the girl you need to remember that whilst you live with your parents, and are under the age of concent, you should abid by their decision, and if you are the guy in question, you should take a back seat until your girlfriend has calmed the whole situation down. Or, find a girl your own age - far less hassle, it would seem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust an update, the police visited yesterday and said that although they have not traced him yet, they are not going to give up on it.
The guy hasn't done anything wrong, yet the mother is hellbent on him being caught and sent to prison.
He suffers severe depression and he is really starting to worry me. He has self harmed before and I have never seen him so frightened and low.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am sorry, but I don't agree how the police would not do anything about a 'consented sexual relationship' with a minor.
I have spoke to my friend, they are DEFINITELY not having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): My 14 year old sister who lives with me and i am guardian of is dating an almost 18 year old boy and they are having a physical relationship but the police will not get involved because it is consented so the mum really has nothing even if they were having sex as long as it consentual. But she has no proof if I were him I would turn myself in and say I havn't done anything wrong. However I would also tell him to be careful having sex with someone underage can turn nasty if they split and she wants to turn against him. The police will only get fully involved in rape allegation or when a girl is younger than 13. I hope its helped.
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