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female
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anonymous
writes:I broke up with my ex 3 months ago and he was calling me and begging me to come back but I moved on with a nicer wiser choice and was ignoring him. My new boyfriend I have been with for a month and half. Im totally happy with him and my parents love him. He’s trying to see me and my ex never tried to see me. This boyfriend is the better choice of the two and I have forgotten about my ex but every now and then since ex gave up trying to get me back I think about him. A certain song makes me think of him and when im alone not talking to new boyfriend I think about ex. I miss my ex but I love my boyfriend. I don’t want my ex back because my boyfriend is better choice but I still think of what could’ve been with ex. Am I wrong to think about past dates with ex? Ex isn’t talking to me and I forgot him but he pops up in my mind sometimes. Now that ex stoped bugging me to take him back i miss him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): I think maybe you still just have little remnants of memorable emotions that come forward, every once in a while and you think of the ex bf. You both shared an relationship, so therefore there was some deep feelings. And don't forget, it's been just 3 months since you broke up!
Just don't miss him so much that it puts your current relationship at risk. You are in the process of building a good thing with the new guy. However, I do have to say one month is pretty quick to state you love the new guy. Building a truest form of love takes a long, long time of getting to know each other, building trust and a great deal of mutual respect. When all that takes place..say in about 6 months to a year..then you can safely state you LOVE him. I would say it's more like you are really, really 'infatuated' with him.
But as far as thinking of the ex bf. Keep those thoughts to yourself and keep moving forward with the new guy. In time, those thoughts will fade away. When it comes to exes, we all do that from time to time. Don't worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): To be honest, it's normal. Obviously when someone's pestering you for a while for you to take them back and they all of a sudden stop you're going to think hmm.. I guess this is completely it then, kind of thing. It's only natural really.
Also, it's only been 3 months. You're not exactly going to completely block him out your mind like he never existed and forget about the time you spent together.
I personally think you got with the new guy a little too soon. I think you need a little more time to get over this guy. I think maybe you should have a break from the new guy and have some time to clear your head.
Obviously, you and your ex aren't right for each other as he's an ex for a reason so staying with the new guy is a good idea and a nice clean start.
I just think you need a little time on your own. It isn't really fair on the new guy. How will he feel if he knew you were missing your ex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): It is only natural to think of your ex every now and then just as you think back to other things that has happend in your past,if you did not i would say you have memory loss
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