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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months and in that time I have had a few problems. A year ago, I forgot about her competing in a sporting event. I was away working the weekend and got consumed with the job. She was obviously upset that I tried to make it up to her. Recently she had a birthday, I got her a very nice, expensive present, she arranged a barbeque at her house on the Saturday with all of ours friends attending. I paid for half of it and I did all the hosting so that she could relax and spend time chatting to friends. But then she was upset because I didnt have anything planned for her birthday the following day. I saw she was upset and booked a restaurant last minute. I paid for the meal and drinks. But she was still upset. She brings this up all the time that I didnt have anything arranged. I felt that I had done alot.This weekend the sports event came around again, I designed a good luck card for her, delivered it personally, kept in touch over the weekend, congratulating her when she had done well. I then suggested we go out for a drink when she got back. We went out but now she's upset again, saying it would have been nice if I'd have had a bottle of wine or Champagne waiting at home.Am I wrong in thinking that I cant please her!What am I doing wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, Trult +, writes (31 October 2007):
Trult is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice, I will definitely take alot of it on board.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Your girlfriend has issues what does she expect your doing your best and doing really well any other girl would be happy with all the effort you have been making, she seems very spoilt and a little stuck up, just tell her your doing your best but her atitude is getting to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): Hi there
From what I can gather from all this is that no matter what you do nothing will be good enough for your g/f... I wonder how she would react if you were to do the same thing to her?!?! I'm sure it would be a different story then... Your g/f doesn't deserve you - you are way to good for her!!!! You went to a lot of trouble for her and for what?!!?
My boyfriend forgot my b/day earlier this year too but due to the nature of his work he couldn't go out the nite of my b/day as he was working nites. I didn't go mad or all sulky with him about it, demanding he done this or that for me instead. Yeah I was upset at the time but...he made it up to me 4 days after my b/day and it was perfect! He apologised for not wishing me a happy b/day or not giving me a card/present the day of my b/day!
Good luck with things!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): She's living in a fantasy world!! I've run marathon's for charity every year and never expected a bottle of champagne, if only!! In my opinion she just sounds ungrateful. I wouldn't bother next time pal because no matter what you will do for her it will never be good enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): hey I see what your saying about how you feel you can't please her although from the sounds of things I get the impression that she just wants you to be a bit more romantic. Yes paying for half and hosting a BBQ - which she organised for her birthday is generous of you however if you were my boyfriend that wouldn't really impress me - I would want you to want to do something special with me on my own on my actual birthday. It's not about splashing your cash, it's about small thoughtful things (romantic things).I think she may have some, imagine she's made up of what a romantic would do and i think this is what she's looking for from you.If you're still in doubt, talk to her ask her what it is she expects from you in the relationship and equally what you expect from her.hope this helpstake care
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Your girlfriend is being very selfish... You seem a decent bloke, you deserve to be appreciated once in a while by your girl! I agree, there is no please in this woman and you're certainly doing nothing wrong. Tell her how you feel, give her a warning saying if she doesn't change her ways then you'll walk away. It might hurt, but something has to be done - you deserve better! All the best x
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