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female
age
30-35,
*immie
writes:Hello All! Well i'm just looking for advice, but please don't suggest that I end it as that is not an option that I want.Well I have been with my boyfried for just over a year and it hasnt always been plain sailing, when we first met he had just left his wife because she was a controlling psycho (I know this to be true from conversations with his children that lived there) anyhoo we moved in together about 3 months later with his 15 yr old daughter (we get on brilliantly) and sex has just gone, atm it consists of him throwing the cover off of himself and expecting me to hop on. Now I must also explain that he is very loving and he hugs me all the time but this is really frustrating me this has been going on for roughly 10 months, we dont kiss passionatly because he feels that it will lead to sex, i have explained it wont but he doesnt seem to believe me. We have tried to talk about it and he says that his head just won't let him and he feels pressured, but I try not to! I figure that its just what hes going/gone through with the divorce and his ex but I don't know what to do, probably nothing but I would like to know whether anyone else has gone through this and what they did. We are trying to register with a councellor, but these things take time.Thanks I know it is a long question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): I am having the same problem with my Wife. We are the same age (28) but I have the sex drive of an 18 year old and she has that of a 75 year old...I have fought this now for 6 years and came to this conclusion..Some things, personality traits, characters, habbits just can not be changed. It would be the same if I got mad at her for snoring at night...is it really her fault? I know she loves me and I for sure know she is not cheating on me, I just really think it is her pesonality. I think this is so tough and I feel your pain. At first I blamed myself so I dropped weight to 185 at 5'11" and built a very athletic body but it changed nothing!!! I never had a problem getting a girlfriend so I dont think I am ugly....I just can not explain it!! So do not blame yourself, no matter what you are perfect the way you are. I will be reading other answeres to this questions thanks for the conversation and good luck!!
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