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writes: I am a suspicious type of person. My boyfriend has his own apartment but usually stays at his mother's house--just wanted to give you that info.Last week-- I look at the condom drawer and we haven't used any in a while--we have two sets..there were only one left of one--and I thought I counted 9 of the other and was pretty sure--I think I looked at it a few times. Tonight, after we slept together--we did use one...afterwards--I look at the drawer to see and then I count 8 including the one we used--now I am second guessing myself thinking did I count wrong last week or did he cheat on me--of course I don’t want to believe it’s 8 and maybe that’s why I am second guessing myself b/c I really don’t want to believe my b/f would do this, especially since we almost broke up. Do to my trust issues with him(at one point, he basically said I'm sorry I can't do this anymore--he was tired of being accused--we worked it out though)..I don’t think it’s too hard to miscount condoms..the place wasn't exactly tidy unless he brought over a girl who just didn’t give a sh*t if the place was clean or that he had 3 cards from me displayed and my earrings on the table. What do I do? Overlook this b/c now I am second guessing myself?Now I called him and this is what happened:I tried to bring up a convo related to it--I said maybe we should be using more of those (meaning the condoms) and he said ok, it's not a big deal. I said--you look like you are running out and he said not really--there should be 7 or 8 there. I then said, you count them? And he said no, he saw when he was pulling one out when we used one, and then he asked back--do you count them?--and I said why would you ask me that--and he said well you asked me that--he said I have heard of girls doing that to check on their b/f's--and I said for what--to find out if they are cheating? and he said yeah, I guess--although I’ts stupid b/c if he wants to get away with it, the guy can spend the few bucks to buy another package. I said, gees, you sure do know a lot about getting away with cheating--he said you know what, if I really wanted to I probably could. He said usually sooner or later things are found out though. I then mentioned--didn't want to say it was the other night b/c I'm supposed to be more trusting of him--that a few months ago or I don’t really know when, I thought I saw a few missing..my b/f just said, are you kidding me? He said, “well then why didn't you mention it, since you mention everything else that bothers you?” I just said I don't know; I just didn't and I said “what would you even tell me?”And he said “I guess nothing and you know why? b/c there is nothing to tell”. So I think even looking at the condoms from now is not gonna help--either he realized it from the convo--or my b/f isn't stupid--he knew about this in general and maybe is careful or just didn't do anything. Was he saying this to cover his butt?
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reader, karenw61 +, writes (22 July 2006):
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you really need to trust your instincts because believe me if you have suspisicion they are usually right we have that inner voice that screams at us from time to time its up to you if you want to take notice of it. believe me its more than likely right
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