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writes:Previously, I needed different opinions on what I should do concerning my husband of 10 years. recap he's cheated on me 3x times! The last fling was "supposedly" only on myspace! Why couldn't me, his wife be a friend on his page also! Anyway, I go to have my well woman exam I found out I had trichomoniasis also called (trick). I've never cheated on him! He says he hasn't either! I do not believe him at all!! I'm unemployed so I can't leave. Keep in mind children are involved. Am I the only who think he's lying?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): OOPs I was wrong about your diagnosis, I was confusing it with Bacterial Vaginosis. YUP you were given an STD most likely although there is some chance that you can get it from wet towels used by an infected person...or come into contact with damp areas that might be infected, but since you are sexually active with an unfaithful spouse, then
yes he gave it to you.
First off, you should not have sex with him, he needs to be treated as well, or use condoms. Also, having Trick does lower your resistance to contracting HIV.
This man is putting your life and his at risk....Is he worth it?
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (13 February 2010):
 First off, if supposedly can't do anything about it, then why worry? When you know, then what are you going to do? Get all mad and have an even worse relationship with him? I'll tell you what, if he has already cheated on you three times, won't let you friend him on myspace, and gave you an STD: he's cheating. Or has cheated. And probably will cheat again. Which sucks really bad, but I want you to know that you can do something about it.
Just because there are kids involved doesn't mean that you can't divorce. I think that there are really only two reasons when divorce is neccessary when kids are involved, and one of them happens to be cheating. Usually personal happiness should be somewhere near second when it comes to keeping a family together, but when there is such a disrespect as far as cheating or abuse, then there is no reason to compromise said happiness.
I don't know what state you live in, but this guy will have to pay alimony (which goes to you) and child support if you do divorce him. You will be funded for a while, as well as there are different types of temporary welfare you could go on. Never say that there is nothing you can do though about the situation, because that's an excuse that makes things easier to cope with. It's easier to do nothing about a cheating husband, but I guarantee that once you get such a hassle out of your life, it's one less block to your happiness.
So I wish you the best of luck with this lying husband of yours. There is always support around you however, and I hope you choose to do something about it. No one deserves to be cheated on once, let alone three times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): You already know that he has cheated on you.
But if your question is that you can base his truthfulness on your recent well woman exam you would be wrong.
Trick is not necessarily a sexually transmitted disease, it is caused by bacteria getting into the vagina. Most often it is due to the fact that a woman's anus is close to her vagina and when eliminating if you do not carefully clean yourself front to back, you can come up with this ailment.
I suppose anal sex would be a cause too, if you had vaginal intercourse right after that...
So, not saying you don't have reason to mistrust him and since he is the one who has cheated, he will have to tolerate being questioned...but I hope this answers this specific question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): if he cheated on you once he is a fool, cheated on you twice you are the fool so 3 times and an std... i understand you got kids and unemployed but you are entitled to alimony and child support... when there is a will there is a way... i did it with 4 small kids and expecting my 5th with no help from anyone at all and no family around... he moved me from florida to washington where i knew NOBODY... so the day you say to yourself that you've had enough trust me you will make things happen!
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