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writes:I have a bit of a dilemma. It's likely I'm just being overly jealous, but I thought I should at least bring up the situation here.My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half, and were friends for years before that. We've had our ups and downs, but we've been dedicated to each other. The only really big break-up fight we've had was about a month ago when I found out he had been flirting with a girl he'd met online. They'd been friends for some time, and I knew about her, but after I found out about the flirting I told him how I felt about him talking to another girl that way. He didn't agree that it was wrong to do because he claims he didn't have feelings for her, but he agreed that he shouldn't do it anymore because of the way I felt about it. Though we broke up temporarily over this, we worked through it quickly.Now, to the current situation. His birthday was a month ago, and I was unable to get him a gift because money has been extremely tight. (I recently had to move back home because of the situation. Money is also very tight for him and he is living at home also. We're dating long-distance temporarily because of this, and see each other twice a month.) He completely understood, and was fine with it.Now, theres a video game out he desperately wants. It's new, so it's expensive, and I wish I could afford it for him but I can't. However, the girl whom he had the flirtation with offered to buy it for him as a belated birthday present.Now, back to me being overly jealous, I do not like this idea! I hate the idea that he'd accept an extravagant (relative to our current lifestyle) gift from this girl he obviously had/has some semblance of feelings for. It'd be a constant reminder of her to him whenever he played the game.Am I the only person that would feel this way? Should I just let it go? I want him to be happy, I guess it just makes me feel inadequate that I can't be the one to do it.
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reader, Sarah Burn  +, writes (13 January 2011):
Heyy :)
You definitely have the right to feel this way! , i would to and i have the same problem with my boyfriend and i dread when he goes onto his messangers cause i know he talks to girls! . If i was you i would tell him how you feel , i know it mightened be easy but if she gets him the game you will constantly be reminded of her, Tell him now and get it over with :)
Hope this helps :)
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