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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for going on 4 years....I love him very much ......we broke up for about a year and he moved to fl we kept in touch and i missed him so much while he was gone.....then we decided to meet up after a year in 2 months and i had gotten in a fight with my family so he asked me to come to fl to live and be with him and im originally from va.....So i did so it was a very hard move to make not knowing what to expect since we had be apart for so long and i left school behind and friends....Ive been here for about 5 months and the plan for me when i came was to get back in school since i only have 6 months left.....I havent gotten back in school and ive been scared since ive been down here just now getting use to everything because everything is so differnt here....in the process of getting a job and then working my way back into school.....but all he can seem to say is how i dont work and his friends cant believe he puts up with that and his parents....with the stress of my parents divorce and the move and im a convicted felony i get very down on my self and doesnt seem to understand that.....what should i do i feel as if he doesnt really love cause he says im taking advantage of him when im really not .....im really trying and ive changed my whole world for him......should i move back and finish school there and get my job back there.....or am i just being selfish and i dont see what he is talking about.....even thought he promised me and my dad that i would be back in school while im here.....what do i do
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reader, carline  +, writes (24 December 2008):
you must have a big connection together if you are back together after so long.....
moving house is one of our biggest stress factors...divorce is another be it your own or your parents , don't be so hard on yourself....
what his friends or his parents think don't matter.....this is your life and his together , if you are tring to get a job and get back to school is a really good thing , it is such a good thing that you want to finish school , it can be very important, if it will get you a career that you really want ....
sometimes you do have to think about yourself ..what is it in life you want ,,you know what it is like to be without him....... work on living with him in your new enviornment ... look at all the positives in your life , you sound like a beautiful person ...do your best don't heed what others say ..be happy things will fall into place
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): How sad to hear that! It is really very inconsiderate of him to say those things to you. No.. you are not taking advantage of him. You have left behind everyone to go and live with him.. and he asked you to do that. He is supposed to take care of you. Dont feel bad about yourself. I hope you will find strength to go through this. I learned the bitter truth that if we cant be independent, the world wont be a nice place to us. I blame the feminists for confounding the roles of men and women in the society. If I am in your place, I may seriously consider going back to my place and finishing school there... not becoz I would be taking advantage of him but becoz I would be too upset to be with him. I am not recommending you that. I hope you two can sort things out. Good luck!!!
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reader, Nycee25 +, writes (24 December 2008):
Girl bye. I would have been back home so fast. Look, it seems nice and romantic living with your boo, but you come first. Go home and finish school first and both of you can work on yourselves before you jump into an apartment together. Then later you both will have something to bring to the table. He doesn't care if you finish school or not because if he did he wouldn't have put you in this situation. He doesn't sound supportive at all. Of course two people have to contribute, but at this time in your life your priority isn't to split the rent with this man, it's to work on your education. If I were you, I would go back to my family and patch things up!
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