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writes: Cupid, I have a problem. I am a 24 year old guy who is totally screwed up. Bad family problems and past relationships that have left me scared of committing and scared to let anyone come close in case I get hurt. Thing is, I am in love for the first time with the sweetest girl, same age as me, no baggage though. I know I am the center of her world. She takes on me with a smile and is there for me. I need my privacy at times, and she tends to get paranoid that I am going off her. She wants a lot of my time, which is fine, usually. I have broken up with her a good few times for reasons like: I can't commit yet or I don't think we could last, but she waits for me til I calm and takes me back. I do love her and hate myself for hurting her. but I don't know if it's fair to either of us, in case we don't work out! Am I being stupid? She is the only girl I have loved. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2005): Hi...I think you are scared for notthing....she is trying to reach out to you don't push her away...destiny of happiness only comes once in a lifetime...don't screw it up...tell her your thoughts fears .....you can do it just believe in the good in life....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2005): What you have to look at is, do you think it will work? Do you want it to work?Your first love does not always mean the best love, does not always work out. Trust me, I know.But looking back, it was for the best.Maybe you need some time apart see how you are when you're not around her. Maybe the time apart will make you see what you could lose.But there is no point on carrying on if things don't change, cause you still be like this next year, both of you unhappy and not having a life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2005): Yes, i think you are being silly. This is the first girl you have loved, of course the thought of settling down with your first love is dawnting but this might be the actual girl you're meant to be with. Good people don't come along often, i am sure you know that. So why give up when there are no, pot throwing, plate smashing arguements, or any trust issue's. I think communication is needed, you sound very confused and worried about getting hurt again. Understandable. never the less you cannot push people who are close to you away. This girl will not "wait around" forever, i think you'd be making a big mistake if you gave up. You have landed a good one, dont worry about the future, be happy now and see where it takes the both of you! Good luck mate, been there and screwed it up!
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