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writes:Am I Stupid or What. I really need all your opinion?I've been seeing this guy for 7 months now and he lives in Sarasota and I'm in Ft.Lauderdale. I met him down here and when he was here he never wanted to leave my side. Eventually he told me he wanted me to live with him. At first I really didn't wanna do it but after spending more time with him the feelings grew stronger.Anyway, we go to Sarasota and stayed in hotels for a little while, I'd come back home and he'd stay for a job he'd just started. So, every time I'd go home he'd end up telling me it's not working out, he's not ready. Mind you when I'm there he's SO in love with me. He'd call me a few days later telling me he misses me. I'd give him another chance and go visit him. This happened like 3 times already. We went looking for places to live when we first went up there, the place he's in now was supposed to be for us, I went shopping, everything, it felt like home. I go back to Ft.Laud to tell everybody and figure out my house here and he calls and starts with the it's not gonna work out again. OMG..While we weren't talking he had this girl come down to stay with him (he hooked up with her) after a week he couldn't stand her anymore and sent her home. I come up to see him and drive him to work in his car and go to get some gum in the arm rest compart. and find a Polaroid pic of him and her. I say something to him, like why do you have a pic of you and a girl if you can't stand her? He took it and put it back and said that "I" need to grow up, "I"m" insecure??? HuHI went home this time and said to myself this time was it, I'm done giving my love to someone who takes me for granted.He hangs up on me when he doesn't like what he hears, doesn't answer if I try to call back.Then he called me at 5 am today telling me he misses me, loves me, come see him. He told me he bought a new car, not that he needed another one, he already has an Escalade. So he goes on and tells me how he was in the dealership and this guy wanted to trade in his benz for this car. He goes I'll give you a 100,000 cash right now. So he bought the car and says he wants to drive to come have lunch with me?? Here I am struggling no job because I was too busy going to visit him all the time (I got fired from my job cuz of him), can't even pay the rest of my rent, I ran out of my savings. I cry all the time because I'm going through a bad time and he tells me he bought a 100,000 car cash? And he can afford to help me through my bad times, isn't that what people do for someone if they love them? I know I do. He loves me?? WTF is wrong with this guy?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 The F with this guy is that he's just using you and doesn't care about you. I am very sure of this comment I will make: run for the hills. Never, ever take a call from him, never ever give in to seeing him, and a long et cetera. Stay away from him as if you were Dracula and he were the desert sun at noon amid the dunes.
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reader, gojira343 +, writes (7 September 2008):
ok first of all your not stupid....ive seen many women do this for men....i have to...you just want them to want you ...but what you may not understand is he sounds like a soul sucker....like someone who just plays with you and takes all your energy ....you need to be strong and end it, you shouldnt put up with it...realize what your worth and find someone who actually deserves you
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): "WTF is wrong with this guy?" indeed. Don't let him toy with your feelings like that, he doesn't deserve your company. I know a couple people like this and it's almost always a bad idea to stay with these types of people. Yes, he may have money, but did he use it to help you out? no, he bought a car. So think of how it'll be like if you marry him. Despite how much money he has, you probably won't see much of it. Try to resist his apologies, they're probably lies. One of my ex-friend's gf is in the same situation, except she doesn't see past his abuse. I left this "friend" because out of all his friends, I was the only one who didn't make fun of his weight. But he decided to take advantage of that and tried to abuse me emotionally since he was too scared to talk back to his other friends. Anyway, him and his gf argue a lot, and I mean a lot. He'd force her to do things and yell at her over petty reasons (yes, in front of me) and later would spend a long time apologizing to her and she'd love him all over again. Then the cycle will start again the next day, and the next. There's no future with these people, at least not good ones.
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