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writes:Hi I wanted to know this question everyone is telling me I am still a virgin but here goes .. The first time I had sex he only put the tip in I bleed a little bit and he says I am still like a virgin because he did ain't push it all the way in the bleeding stop till mid night .. okay so the second time I had sex he didn't push it all the way in either but I bleed for like three days it was only a like bit but yh. The third time I tried breaking it fully so I won't be a virgin anymore but as he push it in I started to feel pain and bleed n he did ain't even push it in all the way in either I told him to stop we did ain't had sex n he pull out I bleed till the evening time . Now my sis told me I am still a virgin because he did ain't push it all the way in and that you have to push it all the way in to not be a virgin anymore .My mom say the same thing she say I am kinda like a half virgin one because he did ain't push it all the one in and that I had sex so I am a half virgin say say the word for that begins with p I can't remember it but yh she says that I have to let him go inside fully for him to break my virginty and that my hymen torn a little bit but from that time I did ain't had sex you could say it's been two months now . And I can't even finger myself I could ain't form the start tho and I can't even insert this thing the doctor give u to insert inside of your vagina if u have a yeast infection it hurts each time I tried to push it in I just give up I tired using tampons but it did the same thing to I guess because I am tight or whatever but I just can't get nothing insert in my vagina and I wanted to know how could I have sex with out pain when I am fully ready to break my virginty ? .
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (19 September 2017):
 Please stop attempting sex and do research first. Get contraception, learn the biology of your body and how sex works. The first time he put his penis in your vagina, even just "the tip", you lost your virginity.
See a gynaecologist to discuss your worries regarding inserting things.
Also, suggest your sister and boyfriend educate themselves on sex. I understand that sexual health and education are poorly taught, if at all, in most countries, but people shouldn't have sex before they are well-educated on how to have sex safely (including oral sex).
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 September 2017):
 Nope, sorry to burst your bubble - penis in vagina = no longer a virgin. Whether he "only" put in 1/2 inch or 6 inches.
Bleeding has nothing to do with virginity for the most part. If you seem to bleed when trying to have sex, going and getting a gynecological checkup might be in order. If your partner used his finger(s) on you, he might have been a bit rough or have torn the walls of the vagina with his nail(s)
The best way to avoid pain during sex is to be lubricated aka wet. That means you NEED to be aroused/turned on or use lube. And go slow. Maybe even get you off with stimulation (on the clitoris NOT through insertion)
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