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writes: quick question. My bf of 3 months commented on a girls picture saying that she's sexy. We went over what we expected of each other at the begining of our relationship. So my question is, am a right to be mad about it? He's been posting things for a few days, but finally said something like this. So, am I over reacting? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): no your not over reacting at all i would be fuming if my boyfriend wrote that on another girls picture. hes in a relationship so he shouldnt find other girls attractive nor comment on their pictures in the chance that she may find him attractive too. at the end of the day a comment like that should be written by a single person not someone in a relationship. maybe you should do something to try to take his eyes off other girls like dressing up in the bedroom or making extra effort, however u shouldnt have to do this as he is with u and should only have eyes for you. if he is saying things like this this early on in the relationship then he's prob more likely to cheat in the future. my boyfriend was exactly the same and i will never trust him the same way again. good luck with it all and just try to have fun and not to take things too seriously but just be safe and cautious xx
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Was he factually correct? Was she sexy? There is a difference between saying that and saying that he'd like to have sex with her. Seems like an over reaction to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Personally, I would be well annoyed. I would probably make an exeption if they were the best of friends. You just got to figure out if you trust him not to do anything more serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): No you're not over reacting. If he wants to tell other girls they're sexy, he should be single.
As you've only been together three months it's not so bad. But if you get serious with him, it's unacceptable.
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reader, ALittleBird  +, writes (14 July 2010):
A guy always will notice and appreciate the physical attractiveness of women. It does not necessarily mean he does not love or is not attracted to the woman he is with. Getting upset every time a man expresses his attraction for a woman or looks at a woman can drive him away. He should be paying attention to you, so if his looking is a way of avoiding you that is a problem. My parents have been married for over sixty years. My dad points out attractive women all the time and my mom and dad watch beauty contests together for fun on occaision. He has always been faithful, and they are still like teens when it comes to their affection for each other. Yes, it could be a sign he's looking elsewhere, but he is probably just engaging in banter. Married women and men sometimes flirt a little to see if they still have "it."
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): To be honest, writing that someones sexy really isnt something to be mad about, it isnt like his cheating on you with them, they might just be friends, so I agree with your boyfriend on this one sorry, but if you do feel that you cant help but worry about it then just tell him that you dont mind him doing it just not as much, really its nothing to worry about, Its probably just a friendly jesturex
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