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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Thanks for your replies everyone. I'm planning to go to medical school, and have a place waiting for me in October. q1605- that is what my sister says to me too! I know I need to get on and make a decision and make the best of it either way.
My family and partner are supportive whatever I decide. It is just a difficult decision to make, and I appreciate hearing other people's impartial opinions very much. My other option is to have some children now and then reapply when they are school age, or something like that. I am just finding it hard as I am worried about turning down a place and then not being offered another one in the future.
I know the hours that doctors work are very hard- my fiance is one, and it will be hard to juggle a job and children. I'm sure it is doable though. I think I will have to sleep on it for a few days and see how I feel in a bit.
Thanks for all your advice and suggestions, it's really appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): There are no guarantees in life what ever age you are when you decide you want to start a family, that doesn't mean it is going to happen, for you. So if you have plans and things you want to achieve I would go for them.
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reader, Midge +, writes (14 July 2010):
 I will shortly be 35 and am currently doing a degree at Uni. I am going into second year in September and my degree is a 4 year degree, so I will be 38 when I am finished. I dont yet have kids and would most certainly like to start a family.
I dont think its too late into your thirties! At 38 I would love to start a family. I think its entirely up to you and how you feel. I know someone that has just finished her degree and she is in her 40s and she had 3 kids while she was doing her degree. Its very possible to have your cake and eat it with good timing and a husband or partner that is willing to support you!
I have every intention of starting a family soon with my boyfriend of 12 years and that will be while I am doing my degree. I have a supportive family and partner and they are 100% behind me finishing my degree.
Going back to Uni was the best decision I ever made. I am happy with my choice in course and am more focused on my work since I have a goal!
Go for it! Good Luck! You will be fine!
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (14 July 2010):
 At the end of those 6 years, would you be wanting to go into a job from your qualification? Or would you want to put that on hold and be a full time mum?If you would want to be a full time mum then either way , you are going to have to put your career on hold at some point. That could either be for another 4 or 5 years, while you start a family now, and then you could go to Uni afterwards. Or you could get the course out of the way now, when you are free of responsibilities, and start a family afterwards. In this case, depending on what career you have chosen, you will have to put your career on hold, at least partially. The other option is to start a faily now AND go to Uni. Although a baby is hard work, it is possible to study around looking after a child. Especially as you have a partner who could help you out. In my opinion, it could well be easier to juggle Uni with a baby, than a Job with a baby, as if you miss the odd lecture you can catch up at home, and a lot of learning takes place in your own time anyway. So while the baby is sleeping, you can study. I am not talking from personal experience but I am at Uni and know 2 women who have kids, one has 3 kids in fact and one with learning difficulties, and they are able to juggle being a mother with Uni. I also heard of a girl who became pregnant in the first year, who had the baby and managed to continue her course and got a 1st. So, what I'm saying is, it is possible to do both. You don't have to choose one or the other. If you've got a place on your dream course now, then why not go for it. You'll be 35 when you finnish, which is not too late to have babies. But you may find after a couple of years that you can manage your studies and feel able to raise a child as well. Maybe try to time it so you give birth after the last semester finnishes, so you have the summer holidays to get used to being a mum! Joke! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): What course are you planning on doing? A lot depends on what you will be doing when you graduate...
but that said, 35 is not TOO late to start trying for a family, but it is on the later side, so you would want to be able to have a family right away and not want a career from your degree before you have children! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Hi I am 24 and in my 2nd year doing a law degree, going back into education is the best thing I have done to benefit my life and the lives of my family. I have a four year old daughter and I am currently pregnant with a little boy, I work too. I would highly recommend education and you will be able to provide better for your children when they arrive. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you decided to do whats best for you and your family :) best wishes
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