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writes: Hello aunts. I'm a 15 year old freshman boy. And about 2 years i used to be happy. I'm not saying everything was alright, because they weren't. my life was still horrible then. I actually liked going to school, to be honest it was my home from home. To be with friends, since i wasn't allowed to be all that social out of school. But now from me not getting along with my parents, stress, high school,and lowered self esteem i live a depressing lonely life. I was so much more talkative back then, would be the one to make jokes and laugh the most. But now it's rare to see laugh an ounce of how much i used to. I really want to be in a relationship with someone.I don't know why no one can't except me for me. I mean i know i haven't really been putting myself out there, im sorta quiet now. and i know im not the best looking guy. But am i really that unlikable? I've never had a gf before because my parents don't allow me too, and because i think im not good enough. But i don't care about that any more. And to be completely honest; I might be bisexual. so i don't know, im confused. I just know there has to be someone out there for me. Some to love and have memories with. Someone who can make me laugh, some i feel comfortable around and totally let my gaurd down. Comfortable enough to forget about my insecurities and not think of what I'm not. And i know that person's gonna be hard to find. i don't i care if it's a girl..or a guy. I just need someone. And i don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): The only way is to change your self esteem. You must love yourself first. Very few do as we are all weak.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (13 January 2010):
 maybe you should join a couple of clubs, find a friend group that makes you happy and get your laugh back on. middle and high school is a difficult time for most people; my first bf was in college, and I know a bunch of girls like that. it's okay to like boys and girls, it'll all fall into place eventually, so don't let sexual orientation stress you out too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): Having a girlfriend/boyfriend may seem like what you need right now, but it won't magically erase all your problems. You may feel better at the beginning of your relationship, but even a special someone can't significantly change the way you are, it's up to you to do that. And don't forget that to have a healthy relationship with a special someone and love them, you must first learn to love yourself. I know it doesn't sound easy right now, but your life will get better if you really try.
You might want to work on your relationship with your parents (I don't know what your situation is, but having a peaceful home will make you that much happier), and maybe find some hobbies to raise your self-esteem.
God bless!
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