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writes:I am so heartbroken over a recent breakup with a girl i really loved. I broke it off before Christmas over some problems we had been having. About a month before we had a conversation about the relationship and she felt she needed more time to think about moving up with me to my home. she said she loved me and that i was the most decent guy she ever met in her life..i broke it off b/c it seemed that her career, her going out, ect got in the way of moving foward with me..it has been a month and she has never said a word to me after the breakup..i feel so lost here..i have been upset for a month. i am really hurting even though i did the breaking up..i think i hurt the most b/c i feel she just let it go without even trying to win me back..i'll admitt that i never really wanted to leave, she just wasn't listening to what i needed from the relationship and she wasn't willing to make any lifestyle changes at all..i broke it off so that maybe she would see that i won't wait around forever, but she just let me go...i need help, i'm very depressed
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): You broke up with her because she couldn't give you what you needed and had no intention of compromising with you. You did the right thing. The fact that she didn't come running after you should tell you something. If she had REALLY wanted to be with you, she would have compromised, and she definitely would have tried to get you back. I'd say you made the right decision, without a doubt. Be glad you saw her true colors now rather than later. Otherwise, you would have wasted a lot more time feeling like she wasn't listening and didn't care. Now you can move on to find someone else that you can be truly happy with. She was never going to be what you wanted/needed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): I think many people can relate to this situation. I myself have had times in my own relationship where I worry that my significant other's feelings have changed or that they just don't care as much as I do. During these times, I get the urge to break it off just so he'll beg me to stay and prove me wrong. Now, I've never actually gone through with it. But, I think that if I did and he didn't chase after me.. well, that speaks for itself.If your girlfriend hasn't come back, then perhaps it is time for you to move on. If you feel you can't do that without getting closure, then contact her and talk. Just keep in mind that it may not change anything.Perhaps you have just reached different points in life and the time has come for you to go your seperate ways. It's painful, but in the long run it will pay off. Both of you deserve to be happy. And you both deserve to get what you need out of your relationships. As hard as it is to see this now, maybe this is what you both needed.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (13 January 2010):
 you could try drinking ben and jerrys is a chick thing or you could pull all your money out the bank and count it that should make you feel better unless your broke. do they have a golden corral near you oh man let me tell you theres no cure for a broken heart like all you can eat bacon ughhhhhh drools,
hey man it happens you broke up with her remember.
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