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*eccamega
writes:I've been seeing a friend of a coworker during the summer. We both had bad breakups last year, so I finally had someone who understood. We became close. I knew that by the end that he had to go back home interstate. So I thought that would be the end. He left a few weeks ago. He said that I should fly over and see him. I thought that he was just joking. But he wasn't. He kept nagging me to move interstate for him. I feel torn. I have my family here. But on the other hand I need a change. I've never moved let alone interstate or lived with a bf. So its a big thing for me. He doesn't seem to understand this. He gave me an ultimatum: book a flight by friday or he'll go NC. I don't know what too do. I feel like I need more time. I feel like we lack chemistry in our relationship. How important is this?After being dumped and insulted by text, by my ex last year. Its hasn't made me want to enter another relationship again. Yet I do really like this guy. But how much?
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reader, meccamega +, writes (13 April 2011):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts been 2 months since he left and I still don't know what to do.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (13 April 2011):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts been 2 months since he left and I still don't know what to do.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (30 March 2011):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been losing sleep for weeks over this and still don't know what too do.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (29 March 2011):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your advice. I can't decide how I feel and I should probably already know by now. If I want to move, I should feel really strong about it. I'm going to stay where IK am for now. I think maybe I should be single for a while. I keep over compensating in relationships and it isn't healthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): Go with your instincts. Never, ever respond to an ultimatum, especially not over a major decision like upping sticks and leaving home and family.
You were both on the rebound when you met and such relationships rarely last the course.
You are right to be cautious. Allow yourself the time to build a new life and only embark on a new relationship from a position of strength and independence.
I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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