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writes:erm... well what can i say i've fallen in love with a memeber of staff in my school... he's a classroom assistant, great personality, good looking, kind-hearted, respectful... basically my kind of perfect, but i cant have him, he's engaged i feel so ashamed to say it but he is. i haven't told him how i feel about him, its dangerous for him and his job and i would never do something to jeporadize his job or his relationship. i fell in love with him the first day i saw him: walking in to my r.e class first day of a new year at school and all of a sudden i blurted "who's he?, he's gorgeous" so i didnt even no him and already i'd made a fool of myself.. he just looked at me and gave me this massive smile, its a smile i've never seen him give anyone else. i'll admit i dont fantasize being married to him or anything that's a bit extreme, no i really have just fallen in love with him.. it is what it is.. its not an obsession, a friend is in the same situation as me and shes a bit more extreme than me. most girls just want to sleep with him so they can say they did, but i dont want him for that reason, they dont care about him or the fact that he has actual feelings. i do. so suming it all up, my best mate thinks he fancies me because he apparently flirts with me, (admittedly he can be flirty), looks at me in ways he doesnt with others, i dont read too much into it because he might be something it might be nothing, who knows. but i wanna know is what do i do?is my friend crazy in thinking this?is there a chance he could love me too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): but you see people are saying its an age old thing to fancy a teacher but, its not a crush... i really do love him and the fact that he'll be leaving soon as will i... its gonna crush me.. :(
i dont wanna be told how to get over him... i dont wanna know how to get him, i just love knowing hes there... hes the kind of man every girl dreams of meeting and falling happily in love and 'riding off into the sunset with' as far as the saying goes... but its strange he never talks about his personal life with anyone but me, if anyone else ever asks he tells them "i dont see how thats anything to do with you" probably because the girls in my school are all around sluts and just want to sleep with him.. and by getting this info is their way of pretending to care, they think this is a one-way ticket to getting into bed with him, annoys me sooo much they think so little of him...
i know for a fact i wont meet anyone like him.. cause everytime i talk to a guy i see his face, i hear his voice. i dont mind falling in love but i dont wanna fall so deeply im trapped. help !
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 May 2010):
 I'm sorry but no he does not love you, he does not want a relationship with you - he is just being friendly. If he does start to take things further by touching you, or overly flirting with you then please report him to a senior teacher - he should not be flirting with children, he is abusing his position as a teacher so he needs to be reported if he is behaving innapropraitely.
As for what you should do - nothing. As you said yourself - he is engaged and you would never do anything to jeapordize his job or his relationship. Therefore there is nothing you can do, he doesnt feel the same way so just leave it at that. He has a girl at home who he has proposed to - he got down on one knee and asked her to spend the rest of her life with him, so there really is no room in his life for you. He has found the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with so just be happy for him and dont let yourself get carried away with ideas that he might love you. He loves his wife to be, not you.
I hope this makes it clear, many students have feelings for their teachers which is totally normal but dont let it go any further than existing in your head, nothing good can come of it. Just accept that yes you have feelings for him but nothing will ever come of them and start to "get over him" so to speak. Focus your attention on boys closer to your own age who you can actually have a real relationship with.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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