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writes: How would you interpret this?I work for a consultant surgeon and although he is usually very professional and caring, he occasionaly comes out with insensitive comments and regrets it. The other day he said something (half in jest) he knew had hurt me about my looks, then he said I take his comments too seriously. (He is missing his divorced wife who was devastatingly attractive, and I am plain and dumpy but have a strange rapport with him). I am only his secretary, but he when he later knew I was on my own, he brushed his hand across my neck to which I raised my hand and squeezed his. Then we broke off and carried on with our work as if nothing had happened. I realy enjoyed this action, but could this just be a close working relationship, or do you think he may feel more about me than just an employee, or am I reading more into this action than was intended by him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005):
You are reading to much into it. And its the classic case of females pining after a doctor. Give it up
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (21 November 2005):
Any relationship with your boss is a No No simply because it will end at some point, then you will not be able to handle the awkwardness of being boss/employer as you used to. Flirt by all means as its a way of making you both feel good about yourselves but as the sign says: "Look but dont touch". You know it makes sense.
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reader, Aunty Suzie +, writes (21 November 2005):
Ummmm, you have in issue here!Tell this man , DR or not that his cruel comments are not all that funny. Make sure that you take him up on it when it happens. He is damadged goods, pinning away for an unavailabe ex and taking it out on you. The fact he shows remorse afterwards tells me he is completely in control and you are his personal punching bag!
Listen, do you want this to turn into an affair with someone still in love with his ex? Do you want a sexual harrassment case? He is wrong to touch you in any way and YOU are wrong to accept this. If he touches you again firmly take his hand off your neck or where he is at that point and say "no". You deserve better than to be verbally abused and touched in a sexual way. If you want an a ffair that will end in your tears and the unemployment line that is your chioce but if you value yourself and your job, be firm becase he is hitting on you but hurting you too with the comments, wow, nice guy by the way....remember, first time around victim, second time volenteer!
Be strong you deserve nothing less than the best.
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