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female
age
30-35,
*weetthing
writes:He is making me mad. I think he likes me, i have been working with him for a few months. Alot of people think he is grumpy because he doesn't get involved, very task centred guy. But with me:He throws things at me,He protects me- be it from animals or colleagues. I was spoken to rudely and i went outside the office. He went looked through the whole building even outside to check on me. People who have known him for years have said they have never seen him this mad before.He will sometimes be moody, will ignore me or pretend hasn't heard me. Will look for my facial reaction and wait for me to walk near him. But there is nothing wrong with his hearing!I was speaking to another male colleague about work, we started giggling. He actually butted in, said sorry to interupt and asked the colleague a question that was answered. But then he said can you actually check that up please to the male. Then he looked at me, i said to the colleague i've got to go and went.When he thinks i've been crying he gets protective.He say's sorry to me when he think he has done something wrong, but he hasn't. He's the type of guy that never says sorry.But he is married (separated they live in same house ) but he didn't tell me he was married, i over heard. Same time, i gave him my number he never used it or given me his. But has other colleagues numbers and will talk to them on the phone on loud speaker if im near by or really loud.We went to a work do and he couldn't keep his eyes of me even across the dance floor. We took a picture he held me so tight on my upper arm, pulled me really close. Not like that in any other pictures. We hugged later and he hugged me really tight. This was first times we ever held so close.He is in his 40s and yes im 22. But we actually connect, i've had alot to deal with and i feel close to him. But when i tried to forget him, he thought i had a bf work was hell. He was so grumpy with me that week, wouldn't talk and tried making me jealous. What are these signs pointing to?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 December 2012):
 You are looking for signs... do not do that.
You've posted before about him too... we keep telling you it's not what you think it is.
He's MARRIED. Separated living in the same house is MARRIED.
THE ONLY TIME SEPARATED partners are acceptable to me is if they have lived apart and just have never gotten around to the divorce... I had this with my first marriage... we were NOT going back but we just never had the need to spend the time and money to finalize the divorce till he wanted to remarry.... BUT we had totally separate lives, homes, bank accounts etc... (and yes we had small children too).
Separated living in the same house could mean a million things... including sleeping in the same bed, having sex... you have NO CLUE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2012):
Have you posted before numerous times regarding very similar situations and all the advice that was given then is still the same..
You are reading far more into this than there is.. 2 he IS married. 3 all you know is heresay and rumour not information he's supplying you with . 4 yes any guy in their forties may like their ego stroked by someone half their age..
My advice.. Leve well alone.. What connection do you both have.. None from what you posted here..otherthan a guy who watches out for you...
Get out and about. Take care
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 December 2012):
 You're flirting with disaster here. This man may be physically separated from his wife, but they are NOT divorced. Keep that in mind when you engage this man.
IMO, it looks like he's missing that female attention since his wife has moved out, but has yet to entertain the idea of an affair.
Latching onto him, giving him your number is a bad move on your part. Not only is he your colleague, which can create an uncomfortable work environment say if you two have an affair and it goes south, but he is a married man. He still seems to be respecting that, and so should you.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (30 December 2012):
The signs are pointing you in the opposite direction.
This guy seems to be bringing drama to your life before you're even together, imagine how it'll be when you've been together for a while.
At this point you fantasize over him, but the truth is that you don't really know him, and what you do know seems to be questionable at best.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (30 December 2012):
 Hi
I think your completely overthinking the whole scenario. There are no 'signs' really, he is just a workmate, a friendly one.
He is also living in the same house as his wife, so he IS married and living with her,not living apart and divorced.Theres a huge difference.
Try thinking of him as a collegue, a married one,so off limits to you, even if he was interested,which I doubt he is.
If he divorces, moves into his own place, comes to you and asks for a date - then you will know he is interested.
But remember NEWLY divorced men usually want to play around, date lots of women, have fun...They have done the marriage bit, got the Tshirt etc and what with maintenance payments etc they won't be in a rush to repeat or get serious
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 December 2012):
 The signs point to trouble, big trouble. He's married and almost twice your age. And if that wasn't enough, you work together. Let this go my dear, there is nothing but bad things down that road.
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