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writes:Hi there boys and girls! I need your help, anyway here it goes.There's this girl I meet at work just a month ago. I'm starting to like / have a crush on her. She's so beautiful that like in some ways, I haven't felt this way before. But the problem is, she has a boyfriend (she told me) but how she talks about him it sounds like it's boring. So basically what I'm trying to say is, does she like more then friends even if she has a boyfriend? Here are some of the hints I found out and you tell me if she likes me. But she only called me "Bro" once and that was it. Hopefully I'm not in the friend zone.Hints:- We sorta flirt at the cash register, like when I did returns, we but into each other just for like 3 seconds.- We have a lot of eye contact- She gives me a beautiful smile- She felt happy when I bought her Ice Cream and she returned the favour.- When she talked about her boyfriend to me once, it didn't sound too interesting. For instance, I ask her what her boyfriend does for school and complains how he hates it so much.- She gave me some free Ice Cream. (I forgot to mention she also works at a Ice Cream place)- I asked for her number and it's a legit one- I think we somewhat flirtedWell, those are the hints. Am I considered in the friend zone or does she like me more then friends even though she has a boyfriend. In addition, I need to get my confidence up but I just wanna take things slow because of my past experiences. Also, I'm planning of taking her out to a movie since I got free movie tickets and is it okay? Oh yeah one more thing, I never hug her before because of work and I don't wanna make it so awkward at work or noticeable.Anyway, does she like me more then friends (give me tips and advice) and is there any advice you should give me before I do anymore of this. Thanks guys and girls for helping me! It really means a lot and have a good day! =)
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 She has a boyfriend. Until that situation changes, don't try to read too much into signals. I never tell men I'm interested in that I have a boyfriend unless I mean to take them home for the night, in which case I suppose they should be told about the guy in the living room. So I'm guessing if she's explicitly said she has a boyfriend, the main signal she's giving you is that she isn't interested.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 March 2013):
 She told you she has a boyfriend. IF she was interested in you she would not have told you she has a boyfriend. That’s girl speak for “I’m not available”
“does she like (me) more than friends even if she has a boyfriend?” actually the question is moot. (that means irrelevant) SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. She’s TAKEN. It does not matter if she likes you more or not… she HAS A BOYFRIEND.
To address your points:
You “sorta” flirt at the cash register. Umm, maybe you see it as flirting and she does not. She may see it as “goofing off” I FLIRT outrageously with young men, old men, men my age… etc. It does not mean I want to date them, or sleep with them.
“we have lots of eye contact” so what? Eye contact means nothing really…
“she gives me a beautiful smile” yeah so will I but you don’t LIKE ME THAT WAY so you don’t see it as a hint. A smile doesn’t mean anything honey…
She felt happy when you got her ice cream and got some for you… NOT a key she’s leaving her boyfriend for you… just that she likes ice cream and knows it was her turn to buy it. I would do that with my girlfriends or guy friends at work… you’re grasping at straws here.
Just because you deem her talk of her boyfriend as not interesting does not mean she does.
Just because she gave you free ice cream does not mean she’s leaving her boyfriend for you.
Have you called her number.. are you sure it’s hers? Do you think maybe she is just a friendly girl who doesn’t know you would try to steal her from her boyfriend if you thought you could?
Again it does NOT matter HOW she likes you. SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. GIRLS with boyfriends are OFF LIMITS till they don’t have a boyfriend.
Remember if she cheats on him with you she may cheat on you with the next guy. IF you go after her because you want her and she’s taken and she dumps her current boyfriend for you, she may do the same to you later on.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 March 2013):
 NO NO NO NO NO!!! It is 100% irrelevant what she thinks of you, she has a boyfriend so its game over I'm afraid. There is absolutely nothing that can happen between you because she is already in a relationship.
A lot of people (men and women) flirt with others, it is normal. It doesnt mean that they want a relationship with the person they are flirting with! She has basically just flirted with you a bit, smiled at you and given you some ice cream. Big deal. I think she is just being friendly and a little bit flirty, but she doesnt mean anything by it.
Dont be the jerk that tries to steal other guy's girlfriends, that is just not cool. Dont take her to a movie, dont do anything basically - just be friendly to her and nothing more. Not many girls will gush about their boyfriends to other guys, especially if she is a flirty kind of person. Nothing she has said would indicate she is unhappy with her boyfriend, she just doesnt talk about him much. I am very happy with my boyfriend, we live together and are incredibly happy but I dont talk about him much to my work colleagues, it is a bit weird talking about your private life to people you dont know very well.
She has only known you a month, she isnt going to start harping on about how wonderful her boyfriend is! If she was into you she would have never mentioned her boyfriend, people that are looking to have affairs or to cheat will always pretend they are single in order to make the other person interested in them. The fact that she told you about him so soon after meeting you was a very clear way for her to tell you that she is off-limits.
Stay away from her, all you can be is friends. It might be different if she ever broke up with him, but you could be waiting forever so dont bother. Find a nice single girl to take the cinema, dont waste your time on girls who have boyfriends.
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