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writes:Hi. I am 18 years-old and a freshman in college. I am currently struggling with a huge issue. I have been in a three year relationship with my boyfriend and I love him so much. Recently, I have been questioning my sexuality, something I have never, ever done before. But, I go to an all women's college and I feel like every other day I find out that someone, who I thought was straight, is gay. And, all of a sudden, I'm questioning myself. There are a few things you should know, or things that I am worried about. 1. I have never, ever been physically, sexually, or emotionally attracted to any girl I know or have met, nor can I see myself in that type of relationship with a girl. 2. I have seen lesbian porn and naked women, never in real life, only online. My boyfriend and I watched it together and I have watched it by myself and it has turned me on. I have fantasized once or twice about being with those women who I saw online and my boyfriend. No offense to gay people, and I have nothing against them, but I don't want to be gay. Am I questioning my sexuality because I am so overwhelmed with the gay community at my school and am now over-analyzing all of my past actions? Please, please help. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): if you've never been physically, sexually, or emotionally attracted to another woman then you're not homosexual…i think it's really quite common for women to enjoy watching other women in porn…i think it's b/c we can relate to them…you can imagine the pleasure that they are experiencing as your own…think about when you watch a romantic movie…when you see a woman happy in her relationship it makes you happy…i think reacting positively to women have positive experiences and negatively to women having negative experiences is just a physiological reaction in the brain…women like to put themselves in other peoples' shoes…whether conciously or unconciously
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reader, mts9290 +, writes (2 March 2009):
mts9290 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should probably add in the fact that I have anxiety and I am very over analytical, so it helps alot to get positive reinforcement and hear that I am fine and I am just being too over analytical, so thank you.
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (2 March 2009):
don't worry about it, you sound fine, just over reacting to the events around you. Just because gay porn turned you on does not make you gay. Neither does thinking about it especailly if your man also features in your thinking.
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reader, melon +, writes (2 March 2009):
I think that at this point in your life, what you called no.1 pretty much sums it up!! I wouldn't worry about anything unless you fall for a girl, and feel sexually attracted to her. And IF that ever happens, then you shouldn't be worrying about your sexuality (as it really doesn't matter) but about your boyfriend. Hope this helps :-) good luck xx
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