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writes:Hi,I am in a long distance relationship of 70 miles which doesn't sound like much but I'm finding really difficult. I am 26 and he is 31. We've been together 10 rather tumutuous months. I see him very often really considering he has a very busy job - I stay the weekend at his on alternate weekends and we talk every day on the phone at length. However I still want to see more of him and it seems that everytime I am with him I find it tougher to leave. I always end up saying silly things like 'Oh, why don't I live here?' or 'I hate leaving you. You/I always have to go away again. I don't want to go.' And even to me this sounds whiny and annoying. On retrospect I always feel like he must think I'm pushing him into a corner to ask me to move in. (which I would love to do!!) On a couple of occasions this separation difficulty has led to me staying an extra day and then feeling that I have overstayed my welcome. I'm finding it difficult to cope with this situation and need help. I think I'm very needy and clingy and I'm not sure what the best way is to deal with it.Help please!!
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reader, Keira9312  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 It seems as if you are in need of your bf's attention. It is not wrong to miss him and plead him to let you stay; it shows him that you care and hate to be away from him. Though, on occasion this can be a little pestering, especially if he thinks you are scared to just tell him what's on your mind. You should probably break it to him nicely and ask if you could live together. It seems that you haven't known him for very long, so get to know him better, and he might accept your offer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): You are not clingy at all! You are in love and enjoy being with this man. The more you are together you get closer and get used to him being in yoru life. I think it is good you vocalized your thoughts. I would not say anything else for awhile. Give him a chance to digest your words. See if he suggests you move in and give it some time as 10 months is not long at all. If you want to stay an extra day ask him if he wants you to so you know. Going back and forth is exhausting backing and running back and forth. If he is a good time give him time to fall more in love with you. You are perfectly normal..
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (26 April 2010):
Your feelings are quite understandable.
But it is one thing to be nearer one another, and quite another to move in at this stage.
Can't you get a job near him and take a flat or flatshare near where he lives?
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