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writes:Hi my boyfriend and I are both in our 30's. We have been together a few years. There is one particular woman I have been having an issue with for a couple of years. I don't know their relationship, I suspect he cheated on me with her though he denies it. She began posting pictures of the two of them and tagging him on IG. He told me she was just a friend. They would be at a club together in the picture. And their were a lot of other people there as well. I told him I didn't like that and he asked her to stop.She proceeds to target him in other ways and tagging him in inappropriate posts. She knows about me, no doubt about it. I have been in the same room with her and she knows EXACTLY who I am. The last post she tagged him in I confronted her on IG asking her to stop and letting her know I felt disrespected. She was incredibly rude to me and proceeded to post many subliminal messages on her IG, talking about how she would act "Perfect for him" and things like that.The next day, she tagged him in something else AGAIN.I had to put my foot down and make him delete it but he refused to delete the previous two photos she tagged him in. One of the two of them and a different one. I guess she realized he deleted it and threw an IG fit!!But now...she has tagged him yet again in a solo picture of herself!!!For some reason he doesn't feel it is necessary to delete all of her tags. He knows this is really annoying me to the point that I left him today. I am always with him and he was just talking about having a baby with me. We both aren't to keen on marriage, if it happens great if not I am okay with it. He says he has nothing with her and doesn't want her. So why won't he delete her tags?He claims women can get crazy. But if she is your "friend" why would u be friends with a crazy person. I told him if he doesn't delete them I will leave. He hasn't yet and it has been 2 hours. Granted it is 4 a.m. but all of this started around midnight. What should I do? It is clear she is trying to cause trouble to wreck my relationship. He is very rich, muscular and handsome. He is a catch in those ways. But the way he is allowing this disrespect is bothering me a lot.Am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2016): I had the same problem on Facebook.
I asked my boyfriend to UNFRIEND her.
AND HE DID.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 May 2016):
 She is a drama-llama and I don't think you are overreacting.. I think however, you anger is misplaced.
SHE wouldn't be doing all this if he hadn't encouraged her to start with. And I DO think he is enjoying the attention.
My advice? WHY even HAVE an IG/Facebook/whatever account? IF you BOTH delete those one less thorn in the side. OR he can block her 100%. Because if she is so "crazy" there should be no need for him to stay friends with her.
It seems so "HIGH SCHOOL" to be fighting over pictures posted on the internet.
And don't forget your BF can't control what she does, what she posts, says, think or feel. But HE can nip things in the bud by blocking her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2016): Thank you everyone. You gave some great answers and I appreciate them!
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (11 May 2016):
 Mischief making little cow, no you are not overreacting at all. He is under reacting. She can and will do what ever she likes- she is not important here and her having total disregard for you and his relationship goes part in parcel of such a slag like personality. So again ,not about her this is about his lack of decency to show you the respect that any partner deserves Sweety, you have given him an ultimatum, back down and you have lost all ground. The ball is well and truly in his court and you have set yourself up for a black and white outcome. If things turn out in your favour, lets hope they do,My suggestion would be to get rid of the lot, social media stuff, for both of you, 9 times out of 10 it seems to always be the 3rd person in an otherwise good relationship.
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reader, miss frank  +, writes (11 May 2016):
I don't believe you are over reacting at all. If indeed this is what is occurring, and she is purposefully tagging him to wind you up why is he mot telling her where to get off? I think you may have the answer...what does she have on him that hes afraid you'll discover? Perhaps your opening paragraph says it all...did he indeed cheat on you with her?
Any man who is happy for his woman to be so blatantly disrespected by a friend of either gender as you have described, is not respecting you.
It might be an idea to try a conversation in a non confrontational way, tell him that it may not be important to him, but it is to you, and his reaction is disrespecting you as you are really upset by it.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 May 2016):
 Ahhh, social media strikes again! The _itch needs to be stoped by your guy friend not you.
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