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*rissyxx
writes:Hello :)Well I'm getting a little suspicious about my boyfriend. When I went to his house today he put the TV on and it was on a porn channel in which he claimed it just flicked over when he was fast asleep last night and the remote control was on the floor. I didn't believe him but I let it drop. When I got home tonight he sent a couple of naughty texts to me and later I rang him just saying goodnight and such. I was being playful with him and said "Oh! And you sending naughty messages huh?" and he got really defensive. He reacted like "What?! What do you mean?! Oh messages TO YOU? Yeah I know..." I jokingly said "Well yeah, who else?" (As if to say well DOH. Who else am I on about) and he started questioning me about what I meant by who else he only texts me like that.I got paranoid. Am I overanalysing things? I'd like to add, I've had 3 relationships(I'm in the third now of 9months) and the past 2 I was cheated on. Not good for mind :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): I disagree with what the others are saying; I think you are being over suspicious here. Unless you have evidence that he is cheating, I would let this go.
Just becuase someone gets defensive does not mean they have something to hide, some people are just like that.
Yeah, keep an eye on it but until you have more concrete evidence that he is cheating, don't worry.
Also, like you said, if you have been cheated on before you may be over sensitive to looking for signs that arent there. I do that too. good luck. You could talk to him too. You could also cheack his phone, but if he really is cheating he probably will be covering it up well.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Sevrine is absolutely right - the porn is nothing to worry about, the majority of teenage boys watch porn so that is nothing new.
As for the way he reacted about the naughty messages though - that is a big red flag and he wouldnt get defensive like that if he wasnt doing anything wrong.
I would keep an eye on things - he is acting suspiciously and you are not being paranoid here, he is acting weird and you have every right to be concerned.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): Him being defensive and sarcastic is very fishy. He even made it a point to say he meant to send them to you. I think he meant for those messages to be sent to someone else. Keep an eye out on this one.
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reader, sevrine  +, writes (2 June 2011):
porn? no big deal. texting you dirty messages and then getting defensive about it? sounds like he meant to text someone else. opps
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