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writes:Me and my fiance are having problems ever since I asked her to marry me. First it was the ring, she wants something bigger and more expensive. Its hard for me because I am unemployed. Second she constantly points out things that are wrong and things I do not do. For instance this valentines, I thought I would save some money and baked a cake, and also got a card and chocolates... wasnt five minutes after, she started saying in a low calculating voice that we never go out to eat, but every time I ask she says no I dont feel like it...I spend countless hours with her family and she has met mine maybe 5 times in the 6 YEARS we have been dating. Dont really know why I am posting I guess to vent and here some objective opinions... My question is this.. am I fooling myself, am I totally out of line expecting more from a mate? Have been in some damaging relationships in the past and been down both sides of the roads but jesus I thought I could have seen this...
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reader, ljhenhmla +, writes (18 February 2011):
Just stay away from her. Be thankful that this happened now and not after u got married god has something better for u good luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 February 2011):
I'm afraid her response says all you need to know about her. Quit drinking and dump her and move on. ASAP.
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reader, v3ng3 +, writes (17 February 2011):
v3ng3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe had a talk and I told her she dosnt seem to care, she then said she only wanted to marry me because she does not want to be alone and she is embarrassed because all the people at work are married. Hope she said that out of retaliation rather then truth... Have not had communications in the last day... I dont plan on initiating any communications, at a friends house now and drinking...
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reader, ljhenhmla +, writes (16 February 2011):
I was in a similar relationship where I did everything for my ex and her kids. I paid mortgage on a house that I did not even live in and it still was not enough. Just get away from people like this they will only bring u down with them because of there selfishness and insecurities. Run
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2011):
If she's expecting bigger diamonds, dinners out (even though you ask), you to spend all that time with her family but not with yours etc whilst you're unemployed, can you imagine what it will be like when you do get a job.
Face facts here - this woman is an expensive drama queen. You've picked a woman who's only interest is what she can get out of you that costs money, and nothing else. I'd dump her on the spot for that ring incident. You got the best you could on the the little you have - and all she did was moan that she wanted a bigger one. Don't waste any more time with her.
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