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41-50,
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writes:Why the heck am I still stuck on my ex BF. He has moved on with a new girl, I am also in a reationship. I broke it off with him. When he wants to come back, I tell him no, yet when he is with someone else, I want him. Is this normal, I don't feel normal?? AM I unconsciously torturing him and myslef for our relationship going sour, more so torturing him, This is what he tells me, I ignore him, but now I am starting to think he is right, he said I would rather see him go through hell!I need help, I am tired, I just want to stop caring.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (10 October 2007):
You need to put the past behind you and look toward your future. Try to envision where you want to go and make your decisions accordingly.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Sometimes we break up with people that we still love. We just know for whatever the reason, the relationship is not going to work out. Some personalities never mesh. Some behaviors will not change. Some people are just bad together, but you still love them anyhow. You are probably still in love with him, regardless of the reasons you broke up...And what were they anyhow? Did you perhaps act too hastily in breaking up to begin with? If not, then you're probably just not ready to see him move on so darn fast! Men can be broken hearted, and still hop into bed with the first woman that pays them attention. Meanwhile, we usually take months (or longer) to get over a break up. Even one we initiated. The best thing to do, is distance yourself from him and the circle of friends you had together as a couple. Avoid the hot spots, where you know you might bump into him and his new g/f. Don't ask his friends about him. It's going to take time, but eventually you'll be able to let go. Good luck.
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