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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have several problems with my partner of 4 years, we have a child together, I have a son from a previous relationship and he has 4 other children from other relationships that don't live with him. One major problem is that he is irresponsible and wont work, Eg he has worked for 20 weeks this year so far. He takes home £400pw. When he does earn money he tries to give me as little as possible and spends the rest on drink(he is a heavy drinker), going out or clothes for himself. I am the bred winner supporting him and the rest of the family and he doesn't want to contribute. Eg this year he has given me on average £60 pw housekeeping. Another problem is that he is always leching over other women. He is very immature he behaves like a teenager, (he is 43), he likes to go out clubbing and drinking whenever he can. The other problem is he has recently been saying that he wants to work away and only be home for a day or two every 2 weeks. I didnt expect to be in a relationship where he is working away and it is not the kind of relationship I want. Other problems are that he says he is bored, he finds me unattractive and he is going to spend Christmas with his mother. After hearing all this I kicked him out. To me his actions clearly show he is irresponsible and completely uninterested in me or being a Dad and wants to live the life of a single man although he says I am unreasonable. I think he finds it convenient to live with me as I provide for him and he gets to see his child and he wants to work away as he will get his freedom and still be able to see his child when he feels like it. What do you think ? Need to get an opinion from someone else as I only have the opinions of my family and they all dislike him and are biased of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Well, from what you said, he doesn't sound like much of a catch! Sounds like hes a freeloader, will take what he can get, not work for it and expect you to do everything and still love him. Why are you putting up with this? I hate to hurt you, but I have to agree with your family on this one. This man sounds like a loser sweetie, and I'm sure you can do better. Drinks, has an eye for the ladies, and doesn't want to work? What are his good points????
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