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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now. From the beginning, he hasn't been a big communicator. To elaborate, when we aren't together he rarely texts or calls except for when he actually wants to get together. In the beginning that was once a week, but now we've moved to twice a week (every 3 days, typically). At first that didn't bother me TOO much, I could deal with it. But as I move further into this relationship, it's beginning to bug me. I suppose to put it bluntly, I'm craving a little bit more attention from him. He only works 2 to 3 times a week and spends quite a bit of time with his friends (about 5 out of 7 days of the week he sees one of them for at least a few hours). I guess what I'm getting at is: Should I broach the subject of maybe asking for a little bit more attention with him? Or should I simply be content with how things are? He has expressed in the past how he's content that we were taking things "slow" and "didn't have to talk every day", which leads to my hesitation in bringing anything up at all. Nobody wants to look like the "needy girlfriend"! Thanks for any suggestions :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry for the late reply! Thank you all for answering. :) Yes, it is moving a bit too slow for me. I sat down and really thought about what I need out of a relationship, and it came down to that this relationship isn't satisfying those needs. So I will be talking to him about it soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Well he's seeing more of you than he was at first and people do say that that's a sign of being more serious. On the other hand, while he likes it to move slowly, you sound like it's not enough for you.
If he's said he was content and you have said nothing then he probably thinks you are content too. So you need to find some way to let him know you'd like some more of his time. I'm not saying be indirect, but letting him know how much you like being with him might work better than complaining you don't see enough of him.
About texts - I think women tend to text each other more than men do so wouldn't take this as any indication of his feelings.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 February 2012):
 I guess if you are not feeling happy in the relationship and you want more from it then you need to be honest with him so that he knows where he stands. Honesty is always the best way to go around these things. Just tell him that you would like some more contact from him and ask him how he feels about it. Do you make an effort to contact him more? If not then maybe you should do that, so it is not always left up to him to make all the arrangements.
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reader, Rhianon  +, writes (4 February 2012):
No, he has to understand that you like him too much too lose him, I phone and text my boyfriend alot but he does the same and I get Abit aggravated by it but then when he stops doing it I know there's something wrong , he doesn't see his friends much either,
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