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writes:there is a guy i used to know from 6 years ago .he asked me out but i rejected him indirectly .but i did like but i was shy and quiet .he tease me alot but i tease him too.but he a lot girls who liked him and spend time me alot but i didn,t know what to make with it i had no expereice with guys at any level.he try hold my hand i told him get get a lot life.but i was only messing i think he took it to heart .i lost track him.but i found him last year he been scour and sharp with since i emailed him,short answers in emails and always saying his too busy to email me.now he told me i was bitch to him. this was 6 years ago and he still mad at me after all these years.is bit strange .but any one who asked did he like me he never gave directly answer.he was always had a new girlfriend every week.i was playing hard to get may be too hard,guys in past 10 years never gave a chance or asked me out.guys treated me like dirt for the last 10 years.i,ve being all my life i never actual found what its like to have a boyfriend.but guys hate me because i am NOT sexy,gorgeous looking,slim and big bust,so i end up all on my own.but i emailed back said i didn,t mean to hurt his feelings and i said i liked him him.was that a good idea or bad idea.guys hurt me and rejected me me all the time ,and the one guy the only i thought like me didn,t after all.MAY BE I WAS MEANT TO BE ALONE AND SINGLE UNLOVEDguys hate me and rejected .
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): rhythmandblues2 you read my email wrong the boys below read the post correctly
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Stop feeling sorry for yourself! This guy doesn't even know you so he did not reject you, he probably is just a player if he has a new girlfriend every week, so what would you want with him any way?
It is true that if you have such a negative opinion of men, that they are all out to hurt and reject you, why on earth would a nice guy want to approach you? You are too much work, and you don't like them, you said so yourself!
If you have the opinion that you can't have love because you are not (fill in the blank) then that is what you are going to get back from the universe ten fold.....so yeah you will stay alone more often than not
But you do not have to have a boyfriend or be married to be happy. Many people are happy single and have very fulfilling and exciting lives, they travel, they have a career, they have friends and family who love them and they love their friends and family.....
What you need to do is to really work on you, on building your self esteem and telling yourself that you have what men want, and you do! You just have to believe that in your self and it will happen...you will give off a totally different vibe to men, you have to love yourself before you have anything to give someone else....otherwise you are just too depleted to reach out!
So there is your job, now go forth and find love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): Sorry, I forgot to add that you should find solidity in yourself first, before you go and seek out a partner to complete or complement you. It's 'normal' to feel down after a rejection, but it isn't healthy to stay like that for too long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): Life is a blank canvas from the moment we are born. You are never meant for anything. Your meaning is created on what you do and how you do them. If you cannot find someone suitable for you where you live, then expand your horizons and search abroad.
Being sexy, gorgeous and slim is a preference of SOME people but not all. I prefer my women with some meat on their bodies. Physique is important but personality is more important. For me, I would not choose one over the other. I would choose someone that has a bit of both, but leaning more with personality.
There are 6.5 billion people on this planet with about sixty one million of them in the United Kingdom. You're bound to find someone, even a series of people that are compatible with you. All kinds of relationships are about trial and error. Some work out, others don't. Do not expect you can always hit your mark. Some people take only one partner to hit it off. Others takes dozens and a few, even hundreds.
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