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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey. My story starts 2 years ago. I started my 11th year in school. I met this girl. Around the start of the year. I got to know her at a friends party. We became friends. I started feeling something for her. I wasn't sure. But on june 1st. I wanted to ask her out. I don't know why i started crying when she said she wasn't looking for a relationship. But it kinda hurt a lot. It was then i guess i was in love with her. I started visiting and sleeping over at her house a lot. (i was friends wit her brother) Then around august - november. Not sure. She told me she felt da same and wanted to marry. But i should wait for her till we were out of school. I was spending Christmas with them. Then she told she didn't feel da same because of my flaws. I was devastated. Then my final year of school. I was avoiding her. Trying to get over her. I got a girlfriend in april. But around august my girlfriend broke up with me. So i got drunk. And said some things. And the girl i fell 4 said things as well. I can't remember any of it. And she won't tell. But apparently we sorted our stuff out. I was ok with hanging around her. I was more concerned about my ex. On spring i got back wit my ex. Then we broke up again. Cos she told me that the girl i fell for, was falling 4 me. The girl i fell for kissed me on da cheek around november. I spent Christmas by them again. We talked about y she neva gave me a chance. As the weeks passed i noticed that the kiss meant nothing. Start of this year. I was done wit school. I had avoided her for 3 months. No contact. Cos i was really angry at her for messing me around. Then i felt i was over her completely. But a voice kept on telling me i still had feelings 4 her. Past month i was visiting again. But not staying ova. After the first 2 weeks. She seems to be acting strangely. Like she may have feelings for me. But i can't tell. I'd like to know. Am i lying to myself or do i still have feelings for her? And maybe... Just maybe. Does she have feelings for me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 May 2013):
 It could be possible that you still have feelings for her, you invested a lot of time and effort with this girl so yes I am sure that you still have some feelings for her that might always stay with you as I am sure you have fond memories of her.
Now here is the bad bit, for such a long time she has messed you around and took advantage off you because she knew you liked her. Therefore she used your feelings as an advantage to her own self esteem growing up. She is not the right girl for you as she will only hurt you. It is best to try and avoid this girl, forget about her and move forward with your life it is not fair on yourself to waste any more time on this girl.
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