A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Is he interested in me? Will he email me back?I recently met a guy I liked when he was driving a coach taking me on a school trip with some kids (Im a teacher). This was 3 days ago. He flirted a bit but wasnt english so the language was a bit of a problem. I found him very attractive. Anyway, when he dropped us off I had to sign some paperwork and he asked for my number, but then said only joking, yet he was still smiling at me and flirting. During the day he had been very nice to me, laughing etc.Anyway, I didnt give my number and that night regretted it..so I emailed the coach company and asked them to pass on my thanks to the driver for a great journey. Well 2 days later I got an email off the driver. The english wasnt great but he said thanks for a nice email about him, told me his name, said he liked that day out and then just wrote bye at the end. I emailed back asking how he was but he hasnt responded. I know it has only been 2 days but I am confused.If he didnt like me he wouldnt have taken the time to get my email address off his boss and email me personally back would he? Surely if he was not bothered he would have just ignored my email. Also, he wrote that he liked the day so maybe that means something? Am i likely to hear from him again? or was he just being polite?I can't help thinking that he has gone to the trouble of emailing me to say thanks for writing a nice email to his bosses about him, and that seems an odd thing to do if it was just a passing thing and he never intended to see me again. Still no contact from him though in 2 days. Maybe he is busy or just hasnt got around to checking his email yet?
View related questions:
flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe I spoke too soon? I emailed back yesterday but have had no reply. Is it really cos men dont check their email as often, is he really busy etc?
He emailed back after my 1st email so that was good, so why would he suddenly stop? My mind has gone into neurotic overdrive i think!
A
female
reader, Starlights +, writes (22 June 2009):
 oh its looking really hopeful!!!
i told you he was busy working thats why he couldnt initially reply...
now as for those english lessons, maybe in the next email you could put your phone number in it (just make an excuse like u know he's busy with work but prehaps texts sometimes whenever he feels like he wants to improve the english) .. hint hint!
good luck!!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I had an email from him today, turns out he was busy working away all weekend. The email didnt say much but then his english isn't great. The point is he emailed back and I have just returned one to him. Now you can't tell me that he was just being polite! He didnt have to respond but he did and he said he would like to learn better English, so I have offered to be his teacher! Is this looking hopeful now??
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): Nah, he's not interested. simple. He was just being polite and his boss may have told him to email you because it looks good professionally.
...............................
A
female
reader, Starlights +, writes (21 June 2009):
Hi there!
yes sounds as if this guy is busy with his own life... driving people around may mean he doesnt get much time infront of the computer! i wouldnt dwell on it!
he sounds polite enough to respond to your initial email and if there's anything else he'll contact you again.
Im sure he's just busy with life! thats why he hasnt responded as of yet!
Good luck!
...............................
A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 June 2009):
 What I am going to say will sound a little harsh but I think you need to hear the truth here rather than being mollycoddled!
He is not interested and you are being a typical neurotic female! Who cares if you are going to hear from him again? You didnt even speak to this guy for more than a couple of minutes, so why care so much? I hate to say this but is it because of your age that you are latching onto every guy that even smiles at you?
I know it is hard being single (I've been single for nearly 6 months now) and men are awful at times, they use you and never call back etc. But sitting around waiting for some guy to call/email is pathetic and you are just adding to the sterotype of the classic needy woman!
If he emails back then great, he might be interested. But if he doesnt, then who cares! In reality he is a bus driver that cant speak English - where do you think that is going to go?! You are a teacher, you can do better than a bus driver! He will probably be thinking you are too good for him because you are more intelligent than him and you earn more money than him (men are threatened by women who earn more than them) so that could be why he is not emailing back! You should set your standards a little higher than an immigrant who drives a bus!
I am being pretty harsh and playing to stereotypes here but at the end of the day us women need to learn to not invest so many feelings and emotions into men we have just met. Yes it seems a little odd that he would bother getting your email address but there is a chance that he just wanted to thank you for your good words to his boss because you probably got him a pay rise! It should not matter to you what happens with this man, you just met him! If it goes somewhere then great, but you dont know him and you havent even spoken to him properly so dont spend all this time thinking about "will he email back? Why hasnt he emailed back yet?...." You are wasting your time with thoughts like this, get over it and move on!
I'm sorry if this seems rude, I dont intend it to come accross this way. I just hate the fact that women have gotten to this point, where we worry so much about a simple thing like a phone call or email! There is so much pressure from society to find love and settle down, and if you are not married by 30 then there is something wrong with you! I just want women to be happy alone, and if they meet someone then great but life will still be amazing without a man in it. It shouldnt matter what age you find love, because love finds you! But you most certainly wont find love sitting staring at your computer screen waiting for him to email back!
If we all stopped worrying so much and being so neurotic about men then we might actually enjoy life and meet someone because we all have a fantastic care free attitude that is so attractive!
I hope this helps and good luck!
...............................
|
