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writes:Ok so Im going out w/ this guy "Josh". Josh seems cool and nice but im not rlly attractied to him...I rlly wanted a bf so i kinda jumped on the chance when he asked me out but the thing is Im just not rlly feeling it. Like the spark! Or even like a slight romantical feeling....We have only been offical 4 like a day but there was so much drama that idk..i kinda am done, drama is something i just cnt deal w/. Also i feel like i only like a guy I cnt have and if i finally do get him i dont want him b/c he wants me is that weird???? I feel like im gonna end up alone by doing this and maybes thats what is happening in "josh's" case, so any advice???
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (9 November 2010):
I think right now you're dating for the wrong reasons. You already said you weren't attracted to him, and you're wondering why you missed the spark? That spark comes from both people's attractions finally connecting. When you're not feeling that pull, you'll feel no spark.You also want what you can't have, which is another sign you're not ready for a relationship. Don't be embarrassed to not be in a relationship. Your High school social status is a petty and meaningless part of your life in terms of all the great experiences you'll have.End things with him and spare him some more hurt feelings later. Don't date until someone more special comes along.
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reader, RennieGeek +, writes (9 November 2010):
You are really young, and love is fickle. Dating someone just because you want a boyfriend is no reason to date anyone at all. That enters into the territory of really possibly hurting someone. Rejection can really live with a person for a long time, so I would ask yourself if you are willing to hurt him now where it will be light, or hurt him much further down the road when he thinks you guys are very committed.
As far as ending up alone, don't worry hun, you won't. :)
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