A
male
age
36-40,
*ustin587
writes:Since starting college, I haven't been able to meet anyone around my age interested in a relationship. I attend a community college, so many of the women that attend are around 25 years of age. I apparently appear to many to be far older than I really am, so I get along quite well with women 25+. They always look so surprised when I tell them my age :P. Thing is, most women I meet are either married or have children. If for some reason they don't, they seem to always smoke, which I can't handle. I don't mind people that drink that much, but smoking...ugh. Unlike most males, I don't find women that are models, cheerleaders, preps, etc. attractive at all. To me, these people are snobby and vain. I like being around people that are laid back and friendly, but most of them are not available.So that's school. As for work, well...I worked in a factory and there weren't many women at all. I had a great opportunity while working in a retail store, but I didn't care about relationships when I was 18 - I was so busy I didn't care. I have looked at all the options as far as where to meet people, but I simply cannot meet anyone. Coffee shops are non-existent in my area, bars and clubs aren't my thing, I feel guilty about going to church just to meet a girl - that seems hypocritical (I haven't been to a church in years - they treated me like crap), I don't like sporting events, and none of my friends know anyone. I suppose the only options are joining a volunteer organization or joining a school club. I am in an honors society and I meet a lot of people that way, but since I am on a site campus, I generally see the same people I always do.On a side note, since I am a virgin, I probably make these things a LOT harder than most men do, so bear that in mind. People seem to enjoy being around me. I know a friend of mine said she could take care of my insecurities in a just a few minutes (aka she would sleep with me). I thought about taking her up on the offer, but I dunno. Part of me says go for it and part of me says I shouldn't. I don't think of her that way. I just simply aren't that attracted to her.Am I just unlucky or is it something I am doing wrong?PS: I posted a similar topic about a week ago, but I feel I wasn't honest at all in that post. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (4 October 2007):
It's all in the numbers. Make a goal of asking out every lady you fancy with the expectation only one in a hundred will be Miss Right. Sitting and thinking won't get you anywhere.
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