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writes:okay first off i have never done this before but i need help! i am 17 years old and i will be 18 soon, and theres this guy i have known him for 6 years now, and to be honest we hated each other when we met. but now i think we like each other i mean more then friends. we text all the time and were friends with benfits this i know for sure. i am trying not to get my feeling invovled. i dont really believe in relationships. but i think everyone can agree with me that its hard to shut your feelings off. and recently we have talked about me moving in. and at first i was like yeah that sounds great! but now my feelings deep down are rising to the surfuce, and i have been thinking, maybe over thinking but maybe its not right because i think he has feelings to. and someone is going to get hurt because i also think i'm just useing him as an excuse to get out of my parents house. but he does make me laugh and we have a good time when were together. i think he has made me happier then any boyfriend i have ever had. so tell me is it a good idea if i move in with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): Not right now it isn't OP.
You need to define your relationship properly before you make such a big decision.
Too many unanswered questions and too many unchecked feelings.
He may just want you there so he can shag you every night, maybe he doesn't even like you romantically, maybe you'll fall in love with and he won't be in love with and it will all fall to pieces and then you're stuck there living with him.
OP first secure this relationship. Talk to him and define what it is. If you have feelings then FWB is not going to work, if he has feelings too then just make it official and give a relationship a go.
But do all this first OP. You don't want to move in with a guy you're unsure of, if you don't know where you both stand then this could very messy, very quickly. I mean it would not be nice to find out he only wanted you to move in so he could have easy access to sex would it?
Need to have a long talk and iron out the details OP, you wouldn't be escaping your parents, you may be trapping yourself into an even worse situation with nowhere else to go. There's no hurry.
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