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writes:I am 16. He is 18. Back in december we dated for 2 months (febuary) I was completly heartbroken ect. Then about the 3rd week of march we went back out but this time, after about a week, I broke up with him because the relationship wasn't as personal as I wanted it to be and as much as I didn't want to end it, I was feeling taken advatage of. Well 2 days ago he texted me saying he wants to know why and everything and i explained and he said he never realized this and that he was hurt and he still can't get me out of his head for both breakups and that maybe that last time we hopped back into it to quickly. So for about 3 days we've been talking nonstop and alot of it is dirty but some isn't. I hear all the time about my guy friends 'hitting and quitting' it so I don't want to actually do anything with him unless it's official and we're back together. But I don't know what to do bc I asked him What we were exactly and his response was 'I don't know?' I haven't pursued it any further but do you think he even plans on us going back out? How can I tell? Since I broke up with him last time do I have to be the one to ask him? Or am I just getting played? Ug I'm so lost.
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reader, growing up +, writes (13 April 2009):
if it doesn't feel right then its probably not... you are anxiety bc you do not trust this boy and my guess is with good reason, my advise stop with the dirty texts and slow it down see if he really wants a relationship or just sex.. don't give it up if it doesn't feel right to you and he is not offering you what you want and need .. if you go with this without feeling sure about him you will get hurt.. and you must be very careful for that not to happen..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): You can control the content of your conversation, I would suggest you cut out the dirty talk, this will allow for you to get to know each other. After a couple of weeks or a month you should know where the relationship is going. If not, at that point come out and ask him again..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): When you have a feeling something isn't right, you are usually correct so don't disregard that feeling. By the way things are going with him and you, I don't think you should go further with him. Let things stay as it is, and move on. The conversations you have with him have a lot of sexual content in it, and little about getting to know each other is another red flag. Are you sure its official because you don't sound like you want to be so its better you don't put yourself in that position. Just move on even though he hurt you, and there will be someone better out there for you. How are you official if he doesn't know what you two are? He sounds like his mind is not made up and trying to hold onto you as long as he can. There is a chance he is playing you have to be careful, and you should just end it here. Find a better person, and you have lots of time since you are still young.
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