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writes:I'm 15 year old girl and I'm a High school Freshman. I've always been a boy-crazy person. I mean I love guys so much, I go as far as having 7 crushes at the same time, and I used to be a tomboy, but I got over that last year. The problem is that I started to question my sexuality, as I still never had my first kiss, and I imagine kissing boys all the time, but lately I started to imagining kissing anyone, boy or girl but when I think about kissing a girl I gross out, My Parents hate lesbians and Bisexual people, I'm really worried about the kissing Part of girls. What Does this mean, am I straight, am I Bi or am I just confused and homophobic ???
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reader, Gleek4Life +, writes (20 February 2011):
First of all, just because you imagine kissing a girl does not automatically mean you are a lesbian or bi. All teens question their sexuality at some point.
However, it concerns me that you say it's gross. I believe this is due to your parents beliefs. Did it really gross you out, or do you feel it should gross you out because your parents disagree with the lifestyle.
Coming to terms with sexuality can be hard, especially if you feel your family will be strongly opposed to it. Your still very young yet, and you probably won't figure it all out for a long time.
If you like imagining kissing girls, then you continue to do that as well as kissing boys. I think when you do have your first kiss it might put things in perspective, but don't rush into it and kiss anyone. Your first kiss should be special. You may realise that you only want to kiss boys, you may realise one day you only want to kiss girls, or maybe you'll want to kiss both. But what you should know is that no matter what you choose there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
If your parents hate gay people then they are homophobic and I sincerly hope that you never carry these hateful views.
Take it easy and try not to worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Thinking about kissing a girl doesn't define you as anything! Don't worry, I'm also 15 years old and I've kissed a girl before but that doesn't mean im bi or a lesbian. You're just curious and want to feel the closeness that kissing causes, don't worry it doesn't have to mean anything at all.
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reader, authenticgal  +, writes (20 February 2011):
IMO, your parents can really influence you how you think. It really depends on the person and how they take it. Homophobia is more than just gross out by an act of kiss of the same gender. The word phobia means having an irrational fear of something. It is something that you don't think of being scare of, you just are.
You know, if you find yourself longing to be with someone of the opposite gender and you can't imagine yourself being with someone of the same gender, then I think you're straight. Your sexuality is NOT defined by WHO you date (same, opposite or both genders). Your sexuality is much more than your orientation. Your sexuality is who you are in relating to your gender, your affections for your family and friends, and genital sexuality. Don't let this whole dating confuse your sexuality because you haven't experience dating before.
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reader, MandiPandi +, writes (20 February 2011):
 It's probably just a phase. If it grosses you well yeah. This apparently happens to a lot of kids our age. Iv had that problem once or twice and I was utterly disgusted at the idea. I totally am only into guys so I was like why is this coming up? After talking to my mom she said it was because I fretted over it so much that I started thinking about it? I guess that's how to put it simply, your brain is scared if images like that. It like when you are little and before you go to sleep in the dark of your room, you start to imagine monsters and all that scary stuff!! Do children like those things? No but they cant help but think about it because they are scared of them even though though arnt really real! So that being said it's normal and I seriously doubt you are bi and are just fretting over things.
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