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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have had a crush on a girl for a year and a half and when i think about her i get really turned on. I get turned on by othere girls too though. I have always been interested in the female body more than the males since primary school. I remember having crushes on girls in primary school and I still do. I have had one crush on a guy in grade 7 but he was more like a friend. I dress in feminie clothes and like dressing up and I thought well I'm just really confused about my sexuality and I would like some feedback on what other people think.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 You clearly seem to be attracted to girls, but that doesn't mean you're a lesbian. Whatever your sexuality you'll settle into it in the end. With time you'll come to realize how you really feel. It's not something to worry about. You'll just kind of slip into it naturally and you'll know then what your sexuality is. You fancy girls but maybe if you kissed one you'd suddenly realize that you're only attracted to the female form. It doesn't mean you're 100% this way or that. There aren't key signs whether your a lesbian or not. You could be the girliest of girls or the most boyish girl going, it doesn't make a difference to your sexuality.
It'll delevop with time, and you'll know how you feel. Just be who you are and you'll solve this problem yourself.
Good Luck. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): I am not going to pretend to know what you are going through, all I can offer is just some advice. First, you may be just confused, or you may be truly into the same sex. The only way for you to really know, would be to test the waters. Find a support group dealing with "Gays and Lesbians" or Homosexuality in general. Try discussing these feelings with them, and gauge their responses. Do they sound like you feel, or are they way off. The next step would be to possibly get involved with another female, or a male. In either case, ask yourself "does this feel right?" If you keep thinking "yes" then maybe that is answer. But, keep in mind, there is always the "bisexual" route which is also very possible. You have said you had a crush on a guy, but you find the female body most attractive. You may find yourself swaying back and forth on these ideas, one second your more into males, then females. If that is the case, then you may be bisexual. All in all, there is nothing wrong with being heterosexual, homesexual or even bisexual. If that is who you are, then that is who you are, just don't be afraid to take a chance or to just conform to society.
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reader, LessonsLearned  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Your still young yet, you don't have to declare a major. females are generally more bisexual by nature so your feelings may be normal. You could just as well find later you have affection for woman but appreciate the male-female dynamic in a relationship. The important thing to remember is there's no right or wrong answer here. Your free to experience your sexuality with whatever sex you feel comfortable with. You may find once your facing what you thought you wanted, you may not be able to go through with it. Just call it a lesson learned and move on. And just because you find you like lesbian love, it doesn't mean that later on you wont appreciate straight sex too. Good luck on your journeys and stay safe!
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