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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey,I was my girlfreind for about 5 months, shes my best freinds sister and we were in secret for literally the whole of the relationship. A lot of people had worked it out, and obviously we both told our close friends. The problem is my best freind is a girl and i new if i told her wed never be freinds and also the girl i was in a relationship with would have ruined her home life. We got seen one day and it sparked a reaction from her, where it was always me saying are we doing the right thing she suddenly said it was too much for her. My parents new which is wy she always came and stayed round mine, and i had easy ways of lieing to my freinds as i play a alot of sport and could just say i was doing somehting like that. She was finding it hard lieing to her family every day and she had a close group of freinds which made it hard for her. She was always the one who said she loved me and it wasnt till a few weeks before we split up i realised i did too.We split up and shes pretty stubern she never caved in where as i wanted her back like mad. This was so weird for me i played her about a bit at the beggining i loved my single life and was used to a lot of attention, i finally realised how much i liked her and thats when it turned into a proper relationship. Ive never got this caught up on a girl before im in a real rutt. We spoke for a good month after but it was mostly arguments i couldnt understand wy she wasnt giving me the usual atention i was used to. We both said we wanted to be freinds and i thought ill stop txting her and im sure shell come running. I got a bit more attention but nothing much. After loving me so much i cant understand whats happened its really put my life on hold, 2 months have gone past now ive spoke to her freinds and stuff but she wont talk to them bout it either. shes really bad at admitting her emotions, never tells her freinds stuff but when i was with her i was so used to her emotions i got told i was loved everyday and i loved her too. She told them and me thats she definately doesnt want anyone else, so i no its not because shes with someone else.Am i just being pathetic should i have moved on by now, i miss her so much, and i just find it so hard that she acts like she doesnt want me. When we talk now its usually quite weird, she seems shy when she meets me face to face, where as wen shes txting shes really blunt. I no shes quite blunt with her freinds but shes never been like that with me. I loved me single life but now i think i want her back i loved being with her it was my first proper love ive never really got attached in relationships before but now its so hard to let go. ive been with other girls since but after a day or so i end up thtinking of her again. Sometimes things are really good for a week and ill forget about her but then something usually happens and something sparks me liking her againI know its a long one but any suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): A long question, and a simple answer, tell her how much you miss her and what a fool you were for splitting up. That you love her and want her back. If she says no, you have to move on. 'Its your move not hers' so it pointless asking her whats up.
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reader, yukiakashi  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Hm, if she's really blunt with everyone, chances are that her friends won't be much help at all. If you really love her, why don't you ask her what's wrong? Get a day for just talk and more talk. Who knows? You might get together. Hope this helps
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