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writes:I feel like I am invisible. No one pays any attention to me, my parents are at work constantly, my only brother is horrible to me and goes for days without talking to me. I have no friends cos everyone at school thinks I'm 'stuck up' ( as I have a bad habit of flicking my hair a lot) However, I don't think I'm better than everybody else. When in large groups of people at school, it is like they see right through me. They do not make an effort to talk to me. Basically I feel completely worthless. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2006): flick your hair. stop thinking people do not like you cause they do not talk to you. at the your age, most people are self centered. talk to people about them try noy=t to use the word I or relate a story they told to your life, atleast at first. find people that like you for you and they will be true friends. the importnat things is you do what is right in your heart and it will come to you. trust me most people feel the way you do, and some try to hard to be accepted and hate that fact for many years. hang in there try talking to the other people that are not on the most popular list.
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reader, Delila +, writes (16 September 2005):
Stop flicking your hair, smile instead, be nice but not too nice, go shopping, make the most of your good qualities. When you are around other people and want to communicate try to keep your energy in your center (ie. your navel) not in your head, and then you won't be thinking so much, and you will feel more grounded. Try wearing something different to prevent you from blending in with the backround. Orange is a really good colour to help you socialise and get noticed. Watch your body language (other than flicking your hair) you could be doing other stuff to put people off, do you cross your arms a lot, do you walk with your head down, where do look when people are talking to you, how do you use your hands when you talk. Take up art or music or some other hobby and practise, practise, practise. Remember what goes around comes around and if you are putting energy out there you will get it back, that is one of the fundamental universal laws.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2005): Im the one who posted this problem.....I just wanted to say please don't assume that Im the one who has never made any effort to make friends, I always have and still do, but people are generally unfriendly to me and don't let me get to know them....ie act like im invisible. thats what i mean.please help im really down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2005): Why is it everyone else's responsibility to come to you? What's stopping you from making the first move?You know those geeky girls that sit on the periphery of the lunch room? Why not sit with them tomorrow? Introduce yourself, break the ice with a good-natured comment about your situation, and ask if you can have lunch with them.Or how about that painfully shy kid in Chemistry? Why not befriend him?You seem to think that this is everybody else's problem, that *they* think you're stuck up, that *they* don't talk to you, that *they* won't be your friends... but honestly, if you really don't think that you're "better than everybody else", it's time for you to strike out and be a better, more friendly person. This is totally in your hands.Being a teen is definitely a minefield, socially speaking, but the habits that you set now are going to basically set you up for life. Are you going to be passive for the rest of your days, waiting for other people to go out of their way to be your friend/offer you a job/ask you out? Or are you going to be the one who strikes out and makes friends of the people you don't yet know?In other words, stop whingeing, girl! Take the bull by the horns and go and make some new friends, thereby showing people who think you're conceited, that you're not.
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