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writes:Am I incapble of being in a relationship?Whenever a guy I have feelings for starts to show interest I start to pull away from the relationship. It is like the thought of us being together makes me nervous and sick. I have been recently talking to this great guy and he finally showed his feelings. I thought I would be estatic but to my suprise I just felt the same old feeling I get. Please help me I want this feeling to go away because I am beginning to lose hope. Reply to this Question
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I agree Minelisse, something's up - maybe an event in your past has now made you wary of getting into a relationship?
You need to figure out what it is, or you're going to end up pushing away every guy who comes into your life.
Until you figure it out and work on fixing it...Slow it down a little with your new guy. If he really likes you, he'll wait for you to work on your hang-ups.
Hope this helps!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Thats one with which you need one on one help, not answerable here -to my understanding-. You might be making a subconscious connection with something (an experience, something you saw, something you felt, maybe at a young age) and thus are not eager to get into a relationship.
However, this association, which seems very strong, can possibly turn up in psychotherapy. Looking for help would be my suggestion.
Good luck!
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