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writes: I have recently become incredibly close to a friend of mine who is a good deal older than myself to the extent that we flirt with each other and spend a great deal of our time together. Thing is he lives with another woman his own age. I don't know what to do because when I'm with him all I can do is think about how good we would be together and how much I want him to throw me down on a bed and ravish me but I don't find him attractive at all! I don't know what is wrong with me! I haven't had sex with anyone for a while now and I haven't had much luck with bfs in the past either but this guy is sooo different. Being with him just feels so right and we have sooo much in common. I just feel like sexually we would be would hit it off big style. Thing is I think their relationship might not be so good and I think he keeps making passes at me. So what can I do? Is it worth getting him to leave her for me even though I may only fancy the idea of being with a "good" man?
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Wow. You've got it bad. So do I! Except I'm the married one. I met someone online..we hit it off and I am having the same thoughts as you. My marriage is in shambles..and this guy has fulfilled such a void in my life. I know what you mean by falling for the "good" guy. I would not normally be attracted to this fellow in a pub, but nonetheless I am attracted to his intellect.Make any sense? I think here's where we have to use our rational side of our brains though and not our selfish ones. HE's married. I'm married. Nothing can come of this for either of us unless things change. The other poster is right..What if you were the wife..and some young thing had a thrill ride with your hubby?..You know you wouldn't like that..and that would be so damaging. I say start spending less time together, get out there with people your own age, and pick up new hobbies. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI often think about this summer going for walks in the park together and holding hands, having picnics and then i also get this image of us painting his house, our house with dungarees on and paint splashed across my face and the two of us having a paint fight and being together. I think about going on holiday with him. Wrapping my legs around his waist in a deserted pool on some remote island and kissing him. Just really darn right stupid stuff but I cannot help but let my mind wander. We already go shopping together frequently and we do everything couples do except have sex hence why I think about it most.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 I think you're just sex starved. You say you think about having sex with him. Do you imagine going shopping together? walking in the park? any coupley stuff like that? If not then it's clearly all about the sex. This guy is in a relationship and he's unattainable and I think that's part of the thrill but it'd be so wrong to do anything about this. Imagine how you'd feel if you were in his partner's shoes. Friendship is fine but as for sex I think you'd be much happier finding someone single to feed your craving.
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