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36-40,
anonymous
writes:This a bit long and I really hope I don't come off as a b**ch or clueless or a sl*t or anything like that, but here's the story: I moved to this area when I was ten (I'm now twenty-one) and I met my best friend (whom is a guy) at the community pool the summer before we were both to report to the fifth grade. We became virtually inseperable that summer and it was like that up until about four and a half years ago when I started dating my first boyfriend. Those five months were, for some odd reason, very hard on my best friend. He would barely talk to me and would sometimes try to hang out with me without my ex. And then a month after my first boyfriend and I broke up, I started dating another guy and that relationship lasted another five months. My best friend and I were no longer best friends during that entire time of my second boyfriend because not only was he angry about this new guy but he started dating his first girlfriend (their relationship lasted a month). I still remember the feelings I got during that month and it was of being hurt and feeling betrayed. In fact, that's how it was every time he got a new girlfriend.But by the time I got to my fourth boyfriend (we dated for a year and two months - broke up four months ago) and my best friend got to his sixth girlfriend, both our families and our friends were hinting that we should date each other. And this is where I have the issue: I had a talk with my dad over Thanksgiving last week (my best friend was there but he was talking to my mom - I still don't know what about) and my dad told me that my best friend is the only young man he could ever truly approve of dating his only daughter. That he is nice, funny, intelligent, going somewhere in his life, and highly respectful of not only me but also my family and that he can't remember another guy making my eyes sparkle the way my best friend does. I literally just sat there next to my dad for an entire minute, completely shocked and then he continued, "I remember the day you started liking *Oliver*. You were seventeen, single, and very pissed at his new relationship." Of course, my dad chuckled at that. And then he said something that made me nearly fall over: "Your mother is my best friend and she's the one for me. *Oliver* is your best friend and without a doubt, the one for you."I then looked over at my best friend, who, by coincidence, looked over at me and smiled that heart-skipping smile of his. It's now been about a week since that night and I'm really thinking about it now. Am I in love with my best friend? And is he in love with me?
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (10 December 2008):
It seems like he was sad when you got with other guys so perhaps he does like you. Just kiss him, im sure he will kiss you back and if he doesnt im sure he will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): wow, My heart skipped a beat :) I think this is the real deal my friend...true love doesn't come to everyone (or they've passed it up, and regret it later in life)
I think it's good you both had other relationships...then there's no 'what ifs' going through your minds.
Also, young kids dating don't know what real love is yet, so nothing 'spoiled' your special bond with him growing up. I don't think you should 'Label' your relationship and call each other boyfriend/girlfriend yet. Just pick up where you left off and spend more time together...let these new feelings grow stronger ...take care:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008): id really like to see this be a true love story with a happy ending, instead of the same tragic story with the tears before the credits like we see so often today.
my only opinion,
I think you are.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Yes, go for it girl, what are you waiting for. I always used to trust my dads judgement. They do know more than us you know. good luck. hope this helps.
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