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writes:I really like this girl... and have liked her since I met her 5 months ago. We're not going out, but I want to. I have had crushes before on celebrities and people I know, but this doesn't feel like a crush. Since November (3 months ago), I have found myself contantly staring at her in my college class. I can't stop looking at her because she is that beautiful. I always smile when she enters the room and if she speaks to me, which is quite often. Then I'm smiling for like a full day afterwards. I also get butterflies everytime I see her and speak. I am also losing sleep because I am always thinking about her when I go to sleep. In fact, I am always thinking about her. I told this to another girl that I am friends with and she told me that I'm in love and that I must tell her. Is my friend right... am I in love?And if I am in love, how should I tell her my true feelings without things being awkward between us in the future? I want to be with her no matter what, even if i'm just a friend, but I want her to know.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 I agree with petina1... you don't want to scare her off by professing your love to her. You need to be tactful... get to know her outside the classroom. Ask her to a movie, invite her to join you for some coffee or lunch, or ask her if she wants to go to the mall. Once you have spent some time with her outside the classroom, you should be able to gauge whether or not she is interested in you. If at that point, you are still uncertain if she shares your feelings, come back and repost your question, so we can give you our thoughts. If you feel she might be interested in you, make subtle comments, but don't go overboard. For example, compliment her outfit (tell her she looks great today), or something along those lines. The point is... you don't want to appear desperate, and you don't want to overwhelm her with compliments. Take things slowly. I would be interested in hearing what transpires, so please be sure to give us an update! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): dont tell her straight away , maybe keep dropping her little hints like say you look really nice today sumfin like tht and find out how she feels about you first :)
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reader, petina1 +, writes (22 January 2011):
 i wouldnt go in 'guns ablazing' to tell her you love her, just in case she isnt all that in to you, for fear of embarrassing yourself. just keep talking to her, get to know her and see if you can get closer that way and if she wants more, maybe then you can give more.
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