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writes:Being with this Muslim guy for about 4 months. Is the second time he break up with me saying that he's a bad guy and I am too "drama" for him.. But he changes his mind 10 min after and is like everything is fine.. Then he says he wants to be only my friend and probably see me only for weekends.. But again.. He changes his mind, he hugs me and next day is like nothing happened. I started to feel unconfortable with his attitude. I talked to him let him know that if he wants a friendship and nothing else with me , he can go ahead and do it. I can't tie him to me if he doesn't want me. Then he got angry at me and told me that I like to be alone and I am using excuses that way I can get rid off him... He said he's not homeless and he has his own place. That make me feel like he's making me a favor when he comes to see me.. Is the second time this happen and I am sad because I think I am being fooled believing all his words.. I very lonely here, my family lives overseas and him became my world here... I am just hopeless and confused...
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reader, 02DuszJ  +, writes (29 June 2014):
 He's not your bf... He's a bloke that plays ups and downs with you, because you let him... Because of your loneliness, you're emotionally dependent on him, but it's ok for him to toy with you like a yoyo?? When he gets angry, it's him transferring his own slight guilt (not that he has much of it, as he's not a very moral guy) he knows he picks you up and outs you down when he pleases, and part of him must feel a bit bad for that, but he still throws a strop when you don't give him what you want- when you're firm with him about what YOU want, when u take back some control and independence for yourself..I think you need to read this post back to yourself and really consider if you wan2 be messed around by this pr**k, or if you want to get out there! Meet some good friends, try a hobby! work more and gain some independence for yourself. Good friends are people that do things FOR you, accept you when you make mistakes and that you can be at ease with, relax and trust. Maybe join an activity club, or do some voluntary work in charities- I've always found very friendly fun people in that industry. Good luck! :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 June 2014):
 I'm trying to figure out what you question is.
If he has broken up 2 times in 4 months and call you drama what exactly are you getting out of continuing to see him?
Do you think because you are lonely you should just "settle" for whatever jerk wants you?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 June 2014):
 He can't fully commit to you. Whether it's his own emotional issues or money problems. The drama is about you having expectations and him not being able to deliver them. So blaming you on this deflects the real issue. He wants to be friends with benefits. Breaking up twice in 4 months is not acceptable. He wants it both ways. He wants to be able to have a breather once in a while, not caring how you feel while you have to be devoted to him all the time. It's not fair for you. There are many guys who won't do this. It's better to be lonely than to have a guy who makes you feel lonelier inside a relationship.
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