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writes:A lot of the girls around here are doing what most grown up's do, like getting pregnant at a young age and having their own house while I'm still stuck at home with my parents. I'm immature because I don't have a boyfriend, don't drink or I'm not pregnant or don't have my own house at 17???. There are reasons to them all. I'm in college and got so many goals and things in life I want to achieve before rushing into that mess!! My dad say's I'm not responsible like them either because I don't drive and stuff.... there are reasons why I don't drive. I thought I was responsible because I was making the right decisions for myself? I'm confused....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Believe me when i say im 22 years of age and im not pregnant own my own house yet i still get the whole "immature" speech from adults my age that already are settled down.
Take your time,reach your goals first and don't let pressure from other peoples views of matureity put you down.Peoples opinions are not facts so you have every right to turn a blind eye! All you have to remember is that IT IS YOUR LIFE, no one is living your life for you so any decision YOU make that YOU feel is right for YOU, believe in it. You sound like you have your head screwed on the right way,which is a shame about all the other girls that are your age in England that have like 2 kids and are spongeing off hard working tax-payers! Stick too your goals, Be fearless not afraid :)
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reader, pink90 +, writes (23 April 2011):
 Your NOT immature... just because they are doing all those things doesn't mean that you have to. You have goals and aspirations and in the future you will have a great job, money and a perfect life , what will they have except a child to look after with no money.
I am nearly 21 and I don't have a boyfriend, i'm not pregnant and I still live with my parents. but I am going into my final year of university soon.
Yes I can drive however a car isn't on the cards for me anytime soon as they are not cheap, plus I don't have a job.
You have plenty of time ahead, you don't need to rush, your going to be coming out better than all those other people your age!
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 April 2011):
they dont OWN their own houses, they are getting benefits and housing benefit which is not the same thing ! so basically you are talking about careless idiots who get pregnant with thinking about the child, and then expect the government and taxpayer to fund their irresponsible lifestyle by giving them handouts and by paying the rent for them. that is not being mature, that is being a parasite.
I understand you are living in this environment and it is very hard to escape from it when this is all thats going on around you. but you have to break the cycle and make a proper life for yourself, and that means staying in school and being responsible. you have loads of time for boyfriends and drinking, trust me. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): it sounds like youre mature by staying at college and planning on actually doing something with youre life instead of wasting it away by having a kid. and...i dont know any 17 year old who can afford to have their own house...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Iv never met anybody under the age of 20 that has ever owned, or rented their own house. Don't worry about it, because all those things you listed actually seem immature for 17.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 how the heck do they get the money for a house at 17?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 LOL ok, sorry. But if being an alcoholic, pregnant, attached and home-owning seventeen year old is now the symbol of maturity-I now embrace the seal of immaturity. Hon, there is nothing wrong with you. Be proud that you are who you are. Drinking, having a baby, having a boyfriend and/or a house doesn't make you mature. What defines maturity to me is the ability to make choices based on real thought and consideration. Now, if you look at my age range, you'd think I at least know how to drive...Nope. I didn't feel ready at sixteen, seventeen etc. I am just now taking classes lol People pestered me about it too, but I wasn't going to force myself behind the wheel when I didn't feel ready-it's a huge responsibility I wasn't yet comfortable with. Hon, you're being very mature by standing by goals and your dad probably just wishes you could drive to get groceries or something like that :D I'm VERY sure that he's not dissapointed that his daughter isn't pregnant or out drinking. I know he's proud of you. And owning your own house at seventeen- a bit ridiculous. Anyways, why move out and pay rent right now? You should be saving that money for school, travel-your future. Living with parents can be a hassle I know, but hey my friend saved up 15,000 doing that and is now in the process of buying a home with her fiance. Laugh it off, hon. Stay focused on what you want. Personally, I know this sounds weird, but I'm proud of you. Keep it up.
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