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writes:i love my boyfriend so much, everything is amazing. there is one thing though, i don't seem to be able to get an orgasm.. atall.i've never had an orgasm through sex EVER. i've had three sleeping partners, one who i was with for 11 months and the guy i am with now i have been with for 6 months. i don't know how to do it, i really want one as i think it plays on his mind too. i do enjoy sex, its nice knowing hes enjoying it, and it does feel nice sometimes but i don't really feel anything building up! i dont know what to do about it, it's bothering me!i don't even know if i've had a real orgasm, i have a bullet vibrator and it feels really good, but i don't know if i'm getting an orgasm??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): You feel like your losing control and you feel muscle clenchong then relaxed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): I personally dislike bullet vibes. As for have you had one, the advice "you'll just know" can be a bit confusing and frustrating. For me, my first was using a rabbit style. I had always had trouble orgasming and figured this would be no different. I started using it and I was like, huh that feels weirdly good, what the heck is that! I had always heard that there was a buildup of tension that kind of felt weird but good, and then an INTENSE release all over your body that felt amazing with fantastic full body muscle contractions. What I got, was my PC muscles involuntarily contracting for a few seconds. I was like, um, well if that's it, that sucked. I knew it was an orgasm because after, I was REALLY hypersensitive to touch anywhere down there. If you're having an orgasm, something will change. Feeling good can lead to an orgasm, but something will change in your sensation or the way your body reacts. I kept at it though, until pretty soon I was really enjoying the sensation and it was getting way more powerful. My advice would be to find a better sex toy, something with a bit more oomph. Don't shy away from rabbit styles or anything like that because it looks like a sex toy. I made that mistake with my first and bought a bullet and nothing happened until I bought one that definitely looks like a sex toy! You also can't expect your guy to get you to orgasm without you orgasming on your own first, so have fun with your "self discovery."
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